If you're in a long-distance relationship, you already know that being away from your partner can feel like a major obstacle standing in the way of your ideal relationship. You've finally found a wonderful partner, but due to circumstances out of your control, living in the same place isn't currently an option. It's easy to feel like the distance defeats the purpose of even being in a relationship at all. However, if you and your partner can cultivate the qualities that help long-distance relationships thrive, it is totally possible to have a happy and healthy partnership without living in the same place.
According to Dr. Joshua Klapow, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and host of The Kurre and Klapow Show, even though maintaining a long-distance relationship may be tough, it is very much possible. "Despite the challenges, successful long-distance relationships happen every day," Dr. Klapow tells Elite Daily. "If there's a strong emotional bond, effort, and dedication to helping each partner feel safe, connected, and independent, long-distance relationships are realistic." If you're considering starting a long-distance relationship, or are already in one, here are some important qualities that can help ensure your love thrives. Take notes! You've got this in the bag.
When you're in a LDR, it's important that there's an established level of trust between you and your partner. "If you are constantly doubting what your partner may be doing, the relationship is doomed," warns Dr. Klapow. "If you can’t let go of what they do daily and trust that it is not putting the relationship at risk, then the foundation of the relationship will erode."
Honesty is an important part of every relationship, but if you're trying long-distance, it's even more essential. "The communication skills for each of you must be at the top of their game," says Dr. Klapow. "You need to be able to and feel open to talking about anything and everything, even topics you probably would hold off on if you were closer." If something is bothering you, don't be afraid to let your partner know.
LDRs may require more effort to maintain, but if you're both willing to do what it takes to make the relationship work, they can be just as solid as same-city partnerships. Try not to get discouraged by bumps along the way, as it may take some time to settle into a rhythm you're both satisfied with. Learning, growing, and making the necessary adjustments are all parts of the process that will keep your relationship strong during periods of separation.
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