Most of us have probably heard of the "taking it slow" approach to new relationships, but I've often found myself wondering what this actually means. On one hand, it seems obvious that it's important to get to know someone before committing to being in a relationship with them. However, there's a big chance that taking your relationship slow might mean something a bit different to everyone. Depending on who you're asking, moving slowly could mean waiting to have sex, or it could mean having sex from the start but holding off with labels until you're both on the same page emotionally.
So we can better understand what exactly taking it slow means and how it affects the potential for long-lasting relationships, I spoke with Susan Winter, an NYC-based relationship expert and love coach . "'Taking it slow' is normally a request of one partner who's unsure about their involvement," Winter tells Elite Daily. "Perhaps they were deeply hurt in the past [and moving slowly] would ensure that they're on solid footing before they claim coupledom."
But "taking it slow" isn't always a good thing. Winter explains that this can also be a "stalling technique" used by people who want the perks of a relationship without having to fully commit. "One partner may want to tip-toe around the edge of the relationship, so as to not be emotionally accountable when things go south." In this case, Winter warns that there is a high probability that the person wants to keep the relationship sexual and is trying to safeguard against it turning into more.
Either way, according to Winter, "taking it slow" is an attempt to remove all labels and expectations (which has both a positive and negative side) until one or both parties are ready to commit, or indefinitely, in some cases. If it's the former, this approach might be able to encourage the development of important relationship aspects that typically get pushed to the wayside early on, like trust and stability. If you're considering entering a relationship where either of you isn't sure what the end goal is, here are some ways taking it slow can actually work out in your favor.