I'm all about putting effort into relationships. Doing small things for your significant other to show you care is part of... being in a relationship. This doesn't have to be something with monetary value, but showing feelings is really part of the deal, here. But there could potentially be a point where you're putting forth too much emotional effort. You may be wondering what are some signs you're doing too much emotional labor in your relationship, and well, I'm here to help you find out.
I spoke with Joshua Klapow, Ph.D. clinical psychologist and host of "The Kuree and Klapow Show" about emotional labor in relationships. He spoke to how difficult it could be to measure emotions — quantifying something that only exists in your mind and heart is definitely subjective. But, if you're feeling like you're the one lifting most of the emotional weight with your partner, it's of course worth addressing the imbalance with them. You'll want to bring up any issues you think your partner has with emotional labor in your relationship through a calm conversation — but more on that later. Here are the signs are that you exert too much emotional labor in your relationship, according to Klapow, and strategies to fix the issue (which, I know, sounds like just another item on your to-do list).