Nerves are a true mood-killer. If you've gone on a first date, you've probably felt a decent amount of pre-date jitters and then have had nervous energy on the date itself. There's a degree of relief post-date, simply because it's over! Afterwards, it's normal to replay the date in your mind, unpack the conversation, and analyze every detail. This analysis can stir up nerves or anxiety again, but don't stress. Instead of spiraling about one awkward moment or a joke that didn't land, repeat these mantras for feeling calm after a first date.
Of course, it's important to feel calm before a date, too. There's a lot of pressure associated with first dates, and sometimes you might have to really psych yourself up ahead of time. Personally, I usually have the mental debate with myself about whether or not it's worth putting on pants and venturing out into the cold, dark world for a first date, when I could easily stay cozy, happy, and pants-free at home. But the debate usually ends when I remind myself that my soul mate is probably not just going to break into my apartment — so, off to the date I go. Then afterwards, I usually reflect on the date and try to figure out what I want to happen next.
These mantras will help you focus on what's really important, and help you to not get distracted by obsessing about every little detail.