Emma Sutcliffe just wanted to break up with her boyfriend of two years like an adult.
But her ex, David Derbyshire, decided to react like a rejected teen boy and, in the process, got himself thrown in jail.
Sutcliffe, 42, broke up with Derbyshire, 35, in April of this year. Their relationship had gone south after Derbyshire started drinking heavily and picking fights.
He was making her life miserable and she was worried for her children.
The mother of three said,
One evening, I said I couldn't take anymore and he had to leave. He seemed to take it really well, and he calmly walked out of the door. I thought that was too easy and I was right.
The very next day, Sutcliffe was at home with her 4-year-old daughter Lexi when she got a Facebook friend request from someone using her name.
The Facebook account was also using her photos. Except it was using naked photos she had taken over the course of her relationship with Derbyshire.
He was obsessed with wanting to take dirty pics of me, especially of my breasts. I was really shy to start with but after a bit of persuading I got into it, I just thought it was a bit of fun to spice things up.
Instead of being a mature, law-abiding adult about the break-up, Derbyshire used the photos from their relationship to retaliate against Sutcliffe.
This is a crime known as revenge porn. It's when a person uses intimate pictures against another person.
Derbyshire sent friend requests to everyone she knew, including friends, family and her boss. Her 12-year-old daughter Georgia also got a request and saw the naked pictures.
My 12-year-old-daughter Georgia called me and asked why my boobs were all over Facebook and that she would get bullied if people at school saw the images.
Sutcliffe asked Debyshire to stop the harassment and he mockingly refused.
He created another Facebook profile and started sending messages to people she knows. She said,
Georgia even contacted him but he told her I deserved it. I had no choice but to call the police. They gave me an appointment in a week's time.
Revenge porn is a crime. Derbyshire was charged with disclosing a private sexual photograph or film with the intent to cause distress.
States currently with revenge porn laws. Y'all keep thinking that exposing shit cute then find out you going away for 3-5 pic.twitter.com/71PQlz7CoZ — Zaddy (@goldcoastqueen) November 29, 2016
He was sentenced to a suspended eight weeks in prison and a 15-day rehabilitation activity requirement.
I just want to warn other women to be cautious when posing for saucy pics, it might feel like a bit of fun at the time, but it can have dire consequences.
To which we say: Emma, you have nothing to be ashamed of.
And I just want to warn men to be cautious when taking saucy pics and sharing them as a form of retaliation after a break-up.
It might feel like a bit of fun at the time, but it can have dire consequences.