In the age of instant gratification, many people expect others — particularly Millennials — to give up at the first possible opportunity.
However, you should never leave something just because you experienced failure once or because everything did not turn out like you had planned.
Living life well requires dedication and commitment, and without those elements, your career, friendships, relationships and everything else would fall apart.
Fear, stress and anxiety are overtly prevalent in our society. They are just some of the factors that lead people to believe it's better to jump ship before there's any sign of sinking.
But, here are three reasons why you should stick it out instead of packing up and leaving:
1. Stability is good for you.
I'm not saying the backpacking trip you took when you were 22 was unhealthy or staying in a hostile or toxic environment is better for you than hightailing it out of town.
What I'm getting at is that remaining in one place, at one school or at one job has certain perks.
If you've only worked at your job for three months, how well can your manager know you?
And if she doesn't know you that well, how can she provide you with anything but an extremely standard letter of reference?
Setting yourself apart from the masses takes time and energy. Commitment to a company, a person or even a hobby demonstrates one's ability to love something and to pursue that passion with intent.
Keeping yourself stable will help you regulate your life, and it will also provide you with a benchmark for your own version of "normal."
2. Believe it or not, failure can make you a better person.
In my company of friends, there are very few who would ever actively admit to having failed at something.
Be it learning the guitar or having to retake a course, it doesn't particularly matter what he or she did not succeed at doing.
What matters to them is the failure. There is this mentality that not succeeding at something automatically equates it with a failure, but nothing could be further from the truth.
The best part of trying something new is learning from your mistakes and finally mastering whatever it is you wanted to learn.
So, if you think your third date was a disaster because you upended a glass of red wine on his white cat, don't despair right away.
Maybe he thought it was funny? Maybe he didn't care? You'll probably never know because you likely ran straight out of his apartment and refused to return his phone calls.
Stop beating yourself up, and learn to take your mistakes in stride. You will never be good at everything — that's a fact.
However, not being the best at something is not a good reason to stop doing what you love.
If people gave power to their feelings of personal failures (everyone has those moments), we would all just be curled up under our covers hiding from the rest of the world.
3. Jumping ship can leave you lonely.
There is a romanticized ideal of being a rootless wanderer who never stays still, never commits and keeps searching for greener pastures.
The problem with this mentality is that the grass always appears greener until you actually reach it. Then, you'll realize that grass is actually just the same shade as the patch you left behind.
There is always something to be said for mystery and intrigue, but after a while, all of that will get frustrating.
You'll find yourself lonely, and you'll eventually yearn for a sense of home and of connectivity.
The feeling of safety and connection is something leaving at the earliest opportunity will never allow you to experience.
In the end, it's truly up to you whether you pick up and leave, or you decide to learn the merits of sticking around a little longer.
Life is about more than instant gratification; it is about your ability to grow into a stronger, more reliable person. Choose to stay, and you might be surprised by the results.