There are winners and there are losers. Human beings, being the competitive and egocentric creatures that we are, can’t help but always compete with each other- even over the smallest things. Competing over petty things is not of importance, but there are times when you need to compete and, more importantly, need to win.
Why do I say need to win? Everyone has goals. Wanting to achieve these goals creates a need that in certain circumstances can be excruciatingly powerful. Some are simple and others are difficult to attain, taking hard work and dedication to achieve.
Whether you are competing against others or competing against yourself, to get to where you want to be, you’ll have to kick someone’s ass, albeit your very own. But how do you win? What is the difference between a winner and a loser- not the given outcome, but what are the differences in character and in their actions? What distinguishes a Winner from a Loser?
The Winner is always part of the answer; The Loser is always part of the problem.
The Winner always has a program; The Loser always has an excuse.
The Winner says, “Let me do it for you”; The Loser says, “That is not my job.”
The Winner sees an answer for every problem; The Loser sees a problem for every answer.
The Winner says, “It may be difficult but it is possible”; The Loser says, “It may be possible but it is too difficult.”
When a Winner makes a mistake, he says, “I was wrong”; When a Loser makes a mistake, he says, “It wasn’t my fault.”
A Winner makes commitments; A Loser makes promises.
Winners have dreams; Losers have schemes.
Winners say, “I must do something”; Losers say, “Something must be done.”
Winners are a part of the team; Losers are apart from the team.
Winners see the gain; Losers see the pain.
Winners see possibilities; Losers see problems.
Winners believe in win-win; Losers believe for them to win someone has to lose.
Winners see the potential; Losers see the past.
Winners are like a thermostat; Losers are like thermometers.
Winners choose what they say; Losers say what they choose.
Winners use hard arguments but soft words; Losers use soft arguments but hard words.
Winners stand firm on values but compromise on petty things; Losers stand firm on petty things but compromise on values.
Winners follow the philosophy of empathy: “Don’t do to others what you would not want them to do to you”; Losers follow the philosophy, “Do it to others before they do it to you.”
Winners make it happen; Losers let it happen.
Winners plan and prepare to win. The key word is preparation.
Richie O'Flaherty | Elite.