Time To Bounce Back: Why You're In A Slump And How To Pull Yourself Out Of It

Have you ever felt stuck? Not necessarily in specific place, but stuck in the sense that you feel useless, bored, nostalgic or anything negative, really? You could feel like you don’t belong or that everyone has moved on and up and you’re just you, feeling like you have not yet accomplished anything.

If so, you are not alone. Everyone I've met — married or single — sometimes feels stuck. There are some people, though, who I must admit feel strangely accomplished having not having done much with their lives — but that qualification is totally subjective. Others who feel unaccomplished and stuck might seem totally accomplished by your standards.

Much of this “stuck” feeling comes from the high expectations you set for yourself at a certain point in your life. Maybe you expected to settle down, get your dream job and turn out differently than what or who you are.

We should learn to take it one day at a time, one step at a time. Everyone has moments when they aren't happy or satisfied and look for change. There are other moments when we accept it, embrace it and just ride. Remember the worst of times and how you got through it; there must have been something or someone keeping you patient and hopeful.

This something is what I like to call “hope.” Hope is when you believe, one way or another, that things can’t be and won’t be bad forever. Things are bound to improve; the sun will shine tomorrow.

I once knew this girl who lost almost everything, including the man who promised to make up for everything she had lost. Years later, he too walked out and she had to start over again. She felt stuck and seemingly had nowhere to go. Awhile later, she realized that she would ultimately be okay. She was still in love with him but knew she had to stand tall.

She didn't have someone new and she didn’t want to be with someone new. This girl now runs her own business and is still single but feels good about herself and her accomplishments. For the longest time, she felt like she should give up, but things eventually turned around for her. No one ever stays at rock bottom, regardless of how impossible a situation may seem.

Replace the fear of the unknown with curiosity. Take a chance, do what you love and don’t be afraid. Be with those who bring out the best in you and who don’t stress you out. If you’re waiting on a sign, stop waiting!

Stop waiting for the weekend, for seasons to change or for someone to fall in love with you. Your happiness depends on you and it is not anyone’s responsibility but your own. You achieve it when you stop waiting for it and make the most out of the moment in which you currently reside. Always believe that you are strong enough to live your life.

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