In one of her rare moments of insight, Kim Kardashian eloquently described the change she saw in herself after getting divorced: “Things I used to trip on aren’t even on my radar,” she said.
I have to keep up with that because it’s a solid motto.
As you go through the motions of adulthood, you’re going to come across confrontations and controversies that add nothing to your life. Still, you’ll find yourself tolerating them out of habit, without realizing how toxic that sh*t is becoming.
Maybe it’s the way we’re wired, or maybe it’s the way our inner mean girls are always tempted to prove a point and save face.
Drama works when you’re in high school, and to be honest, there’s no entertainment without it. But life is a purgatory. You can’t mature without purging your life of negative vibes, bullsh*t, et al.
And no matter how killer your instinct is, there are going to be times when you’ll be hit by things you didn’t see coming. You’re going to feel scorned, burned, betrayed and in the mood for drama.
You’re bound to feel the provocation; there’s no escaping being affected by things. But there is a way to protect your dignity from those fantasies of revenge.
Thick skin is all in your head. No matter how strong your urge is to react, don’t trip. Remember, you're a master of the words you don't say and a slave to the ones you do.
Prioritize; look at the bigger picture.
Ask yourself, "Does it really f*cking matter? Does it honestly affect the important things in my life? Will it make a difference to me a week, a month or a year from now?" If the answer to any of these is no, disengage.
Things deserve as much attention as you choose to give them. You and only you define the level you’re on. Make no moves, except moving on. Life is going to go on with or without you. It’s up to you whether you want to jump on the bandwagon or wallow in self-pity.
Letting things go is honestly the only way to allow yourself to heal. It doesn’t make you weaker, and it doesn’t mean you’re afraid to stand up for yourself. It means you’re above that and it’s beyond you.
No one likes a bitter bitch, and holding on to hostility isn’t going to do you any favors. Move past it and trust that closure will come when you least expect it, especially when you’re not looking for it.
Like Frank Underwood, I believe in karma. I’m a believer in the law of cause and effect, and the paradoxically "mystic" law that couldn’t be clearer. What goes around comes around, and karma keeps a track record of all of us.
There’s a sweet sense of release when things are out of your control and in the hands of the conspiracies of the universe. There’s a force looking out for you, and if you’re good to yourself, fate will have your back.
That’s my philosophy: Karma over drama. Instead of getting into it, let it go and leave it to karma.
Here’s the beauty of it: It’s not that you don’t give a sh*t; it’s that you can’t find a sh*t to give because all your sh*ts are already taken up by focusing on the positives in your life.
Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, but it’s way classier to just f*ck it and move on.
You do you. Let karma take care of the rest.
“Don’t get mad. Don’t get even. Do better. Much better. Rise above. Become so engulfed in your own success that you forget it ever happened.” – Donald Driver