Reality Bites: 10 Times To Be Brutally Honest With Yourself


There’s a reason why Millennials are nostalgic for the 90s.

It was a simpler time when our most important decisions included figuring out which boy band was our favorite.

Now in our late 20s, it seems almost every decision could have life-altering effects, which leads us to put off making any choices.

Even though by now, we’ve at least become pretty good at dishing out advice, it’s still not as easy to listen to our own.

Whether it’s figuring out a career path in this ever-changing world or finally figuring out what you want in a relationship, it’s just enough stress to lead you to a Netflix binge or a nap.

Oscar Wilde once said, “Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.”

It’s easier to tell the truth anonymously, but when it comes to ourselves, we fluctuate from flat-out lies to overly-harsh criticisms.

In order to keep moving forward, you have to have to cut the BS and tell it like it is. Here are 10 of those times:

1. When you have everything you thought you wanted and you’re still not happy.

Stop doing what everyone expects of you and just go for what you want; you’re the only one who has to live with the consequences.

2. When a friendship/relationship has been over for a while.

But you’ve been together for so long, you feel you should stay anyway. It’ll just get worse the longer you wait.

3. When your “cheat days” are becoming too regular and it’s negatively affecting your health and confidence.

It’s okay to indulge, but a diet of processed foods will do a lot of harm in the long run. Who wants to add to the time they have to spend in the gym?

4. When you really didn’t do a good job even though you put in a lot of time on a project.

It’s about time and effort.

5. When you’re with someone who makes you happy in the short-term.

You know, without a doubt, you don’t have a future with this person, even though you want to believe you do. Don’t waste his time or yours.

6. When something someone said or did really hurt.

Sometimes, admitting this makes you feel more vulnerable than you’re comfortable with, but it’s better to deal with it now than to bottle it up and have it explode later.

7. When the reason you’re single is you really aren’t putting yourself out there.

It's hard to realize that it's not because you don’t have enough time or are too shy; it’s just easier not to.

Sure, online dating is not how you pictured meeting the love of your life, but you’re probably online more often than you are out somewhere.

Open yourself up to the possibility and take advantage of that free trial.

8. When your pride gets in the way of a job opportunity.

It may not be exactly what you expected, but it will get you out of your comfort zone. If there is no valid excuse besides your bruised ego, go for it and just remember, it’s a means to an end.

9. When your expectations get in the way of your happiness.

Nothing is ever perfect, but learn to be like John Legend and love all those perfect imperfections. It’s not about lowering your standards so much as it’s about setting realistic ones.

10. When your use of social media is more about validation than anything else.

Don’t let your number of followers or likes define you; it really doesn’t mean much in the end. The people who matter most are the ones who are there for the moments you’d rather not post about.