These Are The 7 Realities No One Tells You About Moving In With Your Best Friend


Moving in with your best friend may sound like a dream come true, but it can also be a challenge... something a lot of friendships aren't exactly prepared for.

And don't doubt your bestie status if it doesn't work out; some friendships just aren't cut out for the test.

I lived with my best friend in college. We got along so well that we decided to move in together once we graduated.

No one told us living together in college was very different than living together in the real world. Our dynamic changed, and we faced some challenges.

Another roomie I had started out as a friend, and quickly became one of my best friends. We actually got so much closer, even though we realized we weren't compatible roommates.

It doesn't always end badly, but the reality is, it's incredibly hard living with your best friend. You really have to know what you're getting into before signing that lease.

Here are seven things no one tells you about moving in with your best friend.

1. You Will Fight

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Even if you've never fought before in your friendship, you will most likely find something to fight about as roommates.

The thing you have to prepare for is being able to communicate well when faced with conflict.

2. You Have To Learn How To Compromise

You're sharing a space now. Just like any roommate situation, you'll need to compromise on some things.

You may think your best friend will understand that you're a bit of a slob, but she's just like any roommate you've had before, and that won't fly if she's super organized.

3. It's Not Always Hang Sessions

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You might think it will always be sitting in front of the TV watching shows, gossiping, and drinking wine, but that's not the case.

Your best friend may need some alone time, too, just like I'm sure you do. Don't get upset if she doesn't want to chill all the time.

4. You Won't Have Your Best Friend To Vent To

When we're having roommate drama, we always had our BFF to turn to. She totally got it.

Now that your best friend is your roommate, you don't have your person to go to about any roomie drama. You'll need to be upfront if something's bothering you, and fix it.

If you find a new confidant to confide in, use these vent sessions to get it off your chest and move on. Holding onto negativity with your BFF can be toxic.

5. You Will Learn More About Each Other Than You Wanted To Know

Some things you can never take back... like accidentally walking in on your roommate and her boyfriend doing it on the couch, because they thought you were going to be out.

These are the things you have to learn to deal with it, and hopefully laugh about later.

6. You Need To Find Time Apart

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It could have been that you and your best friend used to hang out non-stop, except when you went home for the day. If you continue this now that you live together, you'll have zero time apart.

You'll need to find time outside of your relationship to hang out with other friends, and maybe even take on a new hobby.

7. It May Not Work Out

The most important thing you have to know is that it may not work out. Living with someone else is pretty difficult; even some of the best friendships can't do it.

If it doesn't work out, it doesn't mean you're not still BFFs.

You could even become better BFFs, because now you know each other on a different level -- you just can't live together.