10 Regrets That Spontaneous People Will Never Have

by Lauren Martin

Spontaneity is an acquired taste. Don’t get me wrong, some people are definitely born with it, while others develop an affinity for it later in life. Whether you were born with it or came into it, it’s a restlessness that inhabits soul and lusts for new opportunities and constant adventure.

Spontaneous people have a flair for the unknown. They seek refuge in the new and exciting. They don’t like to let moments pass them by and see regrets only in missed opportunities. They are the people who don’t live day to day but for each day. They don’t get pulled down by the daily grind or the monotony of everyday life. They are seekers, adventurers, explorers and the ones with the fewest regrets.

Unlike their counterparts, never leaving the familiar for fear of the unknown or comfort in the known, they do not regularly regret things they did not do. Because those are the worst of our regrets, aren’t they? The passed opportunities, the missed chances, the “what-could-have-beens.”

What spontaneous people would tell you is that life is short and moments are fleeting. Today, you’re 20 and tomorrow, you will be 21. Life moves fast and becoming comfortable saying "no" to opportunities will only lead to a life full of regrets. You don't have to crave the center of attention or an adrenaline rush to be spontaneous. You just need to take chances, to remember that life isn't about plans and expectations; it's about fleeting moments and once-in-a-lifetime opportunities.

Never Seen A Sunrise

Spontaneous people will tell their children of the nights they spent in Rio with strangers and new friends, sitting on the beach until the sun came up. They’ve seen the sun rise and fall, the stars ascend and disappear into the glow of daylight. They are no stranger to the movements of the earth, the beauty in the moments. They have experienced parts of life that most people sleep through.

Never Gone Somewhere Without A Map

There’s a thrill in wandering that can’t be found with your nose stuck in a map. Following your intuitions and the beating of your own heart is an important experience to have with yourself. Spontaneous people will never look back at life and wish they had just appreciated where they were, in that moment. They will remember the small details and the streets they would have never walked had they followed a path.

Never Befriended A Stranger

Spontaneous people have friends all over the world. They make friends wherever they go, acquiring portals in all sections of the world. They are not afraid to reach out and touch someone’s life, and let them touch theirs. They are more educated and well-versed with the world and the people who inhabit it than those stuck in their own bubble of friends and family.

Never Fell In Love With Someone Completely Wrong

The pain of a broken heart is always worth the thrill of falling in love. Spontaneous people don’t let the fear of heartbreak deter them from letting someone into their lives. They thrive on moments of passion and true affection. They let love overcome their entire beings, yet know when to walk away from it. They don't regret past breakups and fleeting hookups, because they do not put the weight of importance on them. They see love as simple and will find it in the most obscure people.

Never Broke Curfew For An Amazing Party

Being wild and reckless is not a crime (unless, of course, it is). Sometimes the best times are the ones that shouldn’t have been. A spontaneous person learns when to break the rules and when it’s worth it. Spontaneous people don’t let societal pressures hold them back, weighing their options only for a few moments, always choosing new experiences over six weeks without a phone.

Never Took Off Without A Plan

Fleeing to the unknown is a thrilling experience that can’t be found in travel guides and travel agents. Spontaneous people listen to their gut and escape to the unknown when it’s time for a new adventure. They’ve hopped on planes and trains, letting a greater force guide them. They will pick days to leave their hotel and find a new town or a new spot to call their own. They don’t stick to schedules or guidelines.

Never Been Somewhere You Shouldn’t

The thrill of spontaneity is no greater than when you find yourself in a previously restricted situation. Whether it’s the apartment of a man or woman you know is bad for you or the adult section of your local Blockbuster, sometimes life is about taking risks and not always following the rules. It’s those who defy their restrictions who learn the truth.

Never Moved To A New City

Spontaneous people understand that there’s nothing as thrilling as moving to a new city and starting anew. There’s something beautiful about getting to know a new place and slowly discovering it as your new home. Life is to be explored, and never leaving the town you were born in is just a waste of all there is around you.

Never Had A Romance In A Foreign Country

There’s nothing more exciting than a relationship that must come to an end. Crossing barriers and finding love in a person with whom you share little cultural similarities and interests is a kind of love that can’t be found in anything else. It’s a raw love, a relationship that’s simpler and truer than anything you will find until you’ve found the one. It’s a relationship based on teaching each other and learning.

Never Made Plans In A Bar

Those plans made in bars, over pints of beer and stale chips are the ones you can never replace. They are the spontaneous decisions you make to fly to Ibiza for three days and spend the rest of your money on a one-way ticket. They are the schemes you hatch and routes you choose for your trip cross country. They are the moments you are most free and uninhibited. They are your desires as you laugh with friends and let the stress of life fade into the frothy foam of your beer.

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