In life, we are faced with the decision to chase or be chased. This could go for jobs, relationships or even friendships.
We all have an image in our heads about what our lives are supposed to be like. Some of you may be the "go-getter" type, or maybe you're the "everything happens for a reason" type.
If you're a go-getter, you most likely have tunnel vision and you chase after what you want without things distracting you. If you are the "everything happens for a reason" type, you probably don't care about what you want in the sense that you'd do anything to get it -- you let things come to you.
When you are the "everything happens for a reason" type, you don't always get what you want.
I know this statement holds some controversy. I truly believe everything happens for a reason, but I believe it after I chase what I want and I don't necessarily get it.
If you sit back and wait for the good things to come, they are going to take their sweet-ass time. For example, if you are into a guy/girl and you don't show any signs or you don't put in effort, how are you ever going to be with him or her? He or she is never going to know you're interested if you don't let it be known in some way.
Maybe you want your dream job. It's a competitive job and you know you have the qualifications. Your résumé is better than the next person's. Are you going to sit back and say, "Everything happens for a reason. If they want to hire me, they will"?
No. You are going to call, ask for an interview, etc. You're going to do whatever you can to make your candidacy known. You deserve that job.
The only way to get your life to be what you want it to be is to become a go-getter.
Being a go-getter calls for optimism. Optimism is the source of all good. When you are optimistic, you see no boundaries for anything you want to accomplish.
I used to sit around and wait for things to come to me. That created negative energy and I was basically growing a garden of bad thoughts. I decided I had better things to do than sulk about not having anything I wanted. I decided to become eager and hungry for happiness.
When you're a go-getter, your confidence sky rockets. It allows other people to believe in you because they see that you believe in yourself. If you don't believe in yourself, then just consider your dreams and goals to be figments of your imagination.
Regardless if the outcome is or isn't how you pictured it, you'll know you tried your best and will have the pride of a job well done. When you don't get what you want, just move on.
Like I said, when you are a go-getter, you have tunnel vision; you look forward and never look back. This kind of mentality is necessary to be successful. Whatever your personal motivation may be -- money, happiness or the guy/girl you can't get out of your head -- be a go-getter.
After all, life is what you make it.
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