Why Self-Discovery Could Be The Most Important Lesson You'll Ever Learn

by Isamar Avery

Sometimes I find myself totally lost. I am following the path that has been designed for me, like a puppet, and still find myself in the middle of nowhere without a map or compass to guide the way, or a cellphone to call home. That is what life is: a paradoxical Bermuda Triangle. You have no one but yourself as a resource to stay afloat.

We spend the best years of our lives going to school to learn how to be something. We’re not always sure what that something is, but we still go to class, do homework and study for tests; though some try harder than others, we all try.

In the real world, books won’t lead you out of the woods. You can’t look for answers in the dictionary, and a map will never lead you where you ought to go. All the education and intelligence in the world can’t make you whole. Credentials don’t come with a purpose. You can have straight A’s for life, but they will never tell you who you are. School teaches you nothing about yourself. The discovery of the self is the most valuable lesson you were never taught.


If you are in your 20s, it is safe to say you’ve learned a lot of what books have to offer, and now, you’ve got to learn all the lessons you will eventually have to teach yourself - kind of like when you teach yourself how to do your hair and makeup to bring out your best features. You will then find what your body type is and what your style is. Dressing yourself is the beginning of it all; this is when you begin to understand that the best way to learn about yourself is to simply look in the mirror.


Learning about yourself comes with guarantees way beyond money and success. When you are self-aware, you are a force to be reckoned with in this world because you are already ahead of the game. Most people have no idea who they are, and you can easily tell by their attitude and life-choices. Becoming self-aware means becoming more sure of yourself by setting standards and understanding exactly what you want.


The game of life has proven to be a survival of the fittest, and because you are your biggest asset, you have to know yourself entirely. It’s like learning how to drive a car in order to get to the mall because you want to go shopping. You learn to drive your mind and body to get you the things you yearn for. And if you don’t know what it is that you want, you will learn about that, too.


Getting to know one’s self is a beautiful never-ending discovery that will help you advance in every aspect of your life. When you know your self-worth, for example, you will have healthier relationships with friends and in love. Knowing what you like and don’t like will drive you towards the right people, the same way that it will make you drive past those who you know are no good for you.


They teach you about ethics in school, but solidifying your values and what you stand for is a whole new lesson. In life and at work, you will not agree with everyone, so it is important that you stand for something, or, like the saying goes, you will fall for anything. Values, dedication and passion will drive you to the job of your dreams, so learning about what you love and what strikes a fire in you will lead you to a career that is fulfilling and rewarding.


You can ask the universe for all the signs you want, but ultimately, we see what we want to see when we’re ready to see it. In learning about yourself, trust your gut and your inner GPS to guide you. No one can do for you what you can do for yourself. So when you ask for advice, you actually already know what you should do by your gut intuition; however, we seek the opinions of others to change our minds. You have all the answers; learn to read the signs, which your subconscious wants you to be conscious of.



The hardest part of getting to know yourself entirely is learning about your flaws. You will learn about your bad qualities and avoid letting them surface so that no one can use them against you. You will learn what you aren’t so good at, so you can move on to better things. You will learn who you’ve hurt, so you can make amends. You will face all the negative things that clouded your judgment before, so you can accept them and move on.

This process might make you unsure of yourself for some time. You might not like who you have become, but as you look at yourself in the mirror and recognize your flaws and seek to correct them, you will also accept them. Break yourself down so that you can build yourself back up to be the best version of yourself. After all, life is too short to spend it at war with your own mind.


Although the journey of self-discovery never ends, you’ll know you’ve reached a good place when you’ve developed self-pride. You will be proud of the person you are and even the ugliest things about you will bring a great sense of pride and fulfillment because, without them, you wouldn’t be you.

The most important lesson you can teach yourself is how to accept and love yourself for you who you are, no matter what you’ve been through and what you’ve learned. Acceptance makes all the difference in your confidence and self-esteem. Love is loud and infectious; it stands out. Love yourself and others will follow, but no matter who comes along, just know that no one will love you like you love yourself.

Own yourself, your thoughts and your mind, and there's nothing anyone can do or say that can take you away from YOU.

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