Often you have that one friend who approaches you, in need of direction or advice when dealing with life's lemons — relationships and just day-to-day difficult situations.
You feel entitled and notable because your friend was drawn to you in times of struggle for a life lesson or two. So naturally, you feel you must be doing something right... right?
We absolutely love giving others advice that we fail to implement in our own lives.
We are satisfied until we need of guidance, so we go to another friend who we feel has his or her sh*t together, and the dance continues.
Here are five things we're quick to tell our friends, but rarely say to ourselves:
1. Stop saying you could care less, when in reality you couldn't care more.
There is a certain proud inclination amongst the young folk of this generation to follow a sort of societal (and lyrical) protocol, insisting that we care and feel less.
Now that I am a little older and perhaps wiser, I can honestly say that most of the time I have said, "I don't give a sh*t" or anything along those lines, chances are I was either just embodying some catchy rap song or my pride was too deep to admit that I genuinely cared a great deal.
Nowadays, it seems as though thoroughly caring about someone or something is considered a weakness or a form of devaluing yourself, when in fact, we all see right through the façade, and know the only thing you're actually "devaluing" is your own authenticity.
Be natural; whether it feels wrong or right, follow your own intuition. There is no shame in concerning yourself with others, no matter the degree. Allow yourself to feel anything and everything.
I mean, really, what do you have to lose? Worst case scenario of texting that assh*le is that he or she doesn't text you back. This would only confirm that he or she is indeed an assh*le, which will allow you to move the f*ck on.
2. Don't regret.
Because everything you did, at one point or another, was exactly what you wanted. Even if it didn't turn out to be the most beneficial decision, take it as life's many experiences that will (hopefully) instill some wisdom to know and do better.
Just try not to dramatize or sit in your pajamas all weekend with an oversized bag of Garden Salsa Sun Chips and a carton of pistachio ice cream, analyzing the crap out of things until you decide it's time to finally sleep.
This is what life is about. Make mistakes, be an idiot and date an assh*le, but realize that these mistakes sometimes come with moderately light to heavy baggage.
And baggage usually means, being pissed on. Maybe sometimes, literally (refer to: Girl peeing on unconscious man.)
3. Stop dwelling.
Sometimes, we find ourselves exhausting the "coulda, woulda, shoulda" mantra. It's a habit that can leave us stagnant and always feeling like we could have done something differently.
There was obviously something directing you, making you reconsider the coulda, woulda, shoulda approach in whatever it was that was conflicting you to freely make a decision in the first place.
If you have to think about it too much, chances are it might not something you want to be doing anyway.
4. Be bold and be yourself.
As corny and cliché as this may sound, it is still no surprise at how often we avoid this.
Conventionally, it seems like a "safer" approach to dim yourself down when meeting people for the first time.
This is mostly because you don't want the other person to think you're a nut right off the bat and then completely discard you without realizing you're at least 75 percent sane.
But, you know what I've realized? Not only do you repress who you are initially, but you never end up building up the courage to fully commit to being who it is you truly are — all because of the predisposed notion that you'll be exiled immediately.
If you're messed up in the head or consistently having weird and random thoughts, let that sh*t out. Talk about it, sing about it or write about it.
You'd be pleasantly surprised by how many people you'll are as twisted in the head as you are. Or, if you're a huge "Star Wars" fan or are really into Dragon Ball Z or Pokémon, do you realize how engagingly sexy that is?
It also means you're a freaking human with actual interests.
Now excuse me, while I completely disregard everything I just wrote.