You should either do it with your whole heart, or you shouldn’t do it at all. The harder your heart breaks the first time, the harder it is to jump into a relationship the second time around.
The more an experience of any kind -- getting fired, breaking up, losing a friend -- hurts, the harder it is to do it again. Why? We fear to be that vulnerable again, and fear holds us back more than anything. Most of the time, the risk is worth more than the fear.
Fear stops us from doing: taking that crazy job we never thought we’d get offered in a city we’ve never been to, moving across the world to get inspired by the Taj Mahal, or going skydiving over the beautiful country in which we live.
If you do something half-heartedly, you have more of a chance of losing both whatever you want and yourself. When I thought I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship, I still went for it with only half my heart and mind in it. I consequently lost the guy who cared about me, and I was more confused than I had ever been.
You miss out on life if you let fear take control of your decisions. Numerous opportunities are presented to you every day. Although you do have to pick and choose, you shouldn’t be missing out on all of them because of those couple of times life kicked you down. That’s why you have your friends, your family and Netflix: to bring you back up and force you to try and try again (while entertaining you).
This has applied every single day of your existence. When you were a little kid running around in the rain, you jumped into the puddles to make the biggest splash. You can’t really accomplish that unless both feet are apart of that jump.
Life is pretty unfair at times, but you shouldn't let that discourage your need to grow as a person, through whatever means are given to you.
You can take the fear inside you and let it inspire you instead of letting it hold you back. In the long run, even if it doesn’t work out, you’ve already learned so much, and that’s what life is truly all about.
Isn’t it said that when one door closes, another opens? If you never open any doors, you’ll be stuck in an empty room all by yourself. Don’t restrict yourself because you’re afraid; it’s ultimately just not worth it.
On the other hand, when you know you’re not ready to begin another chapter in your life, don’t push yourself. It’s one thing to hold yourself back due to fear, but if you’re pushing yourself when you’re unprepared, you’ll most likely end up hurting the people you truly care about.
Do as I do, and live by Mark Twain’s words:
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
Do it in moderation, at your own pace and your own time. Embrace the adventures and the beauty of life, but respect your mind and your heart in your decisions. The experience and memories are usually greater than the risk or the hurt.
In the end, no ragrets, right? Not even a single letter.
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