Why You Need To Be Your Own Inspiration

by Ashley Fern

To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are. Every person is different, yet we constantly find it necessary to compare ourselves to others around us. While learning from others is an integral part of life, we need to embrace our true character.

Society is tremendously successful at brainwashing people in order to convince them that they should look a certain way and act a certain way. Comparing yourself to celebrities is only detrimental to your own self-esteem. This is an awful habit that needs to be broken immediately.

Everyone is different and that is the beauty of the world. Why would you want to resemble someone else who’s already out there? Everyone goes through different experiences in life, which creates the person they become. No two experiences are the same, therefore no two people can be the same.

“Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.”

We all have room for self-improvement, but that needs to begin with internal motivation. Everyone is special in his or her own way and the sooner you realize that the better. If you need to change, don’t do it because of the way someone else lives his or her life, do it because it will make you happy. You are beautiful the way you were created and you don’t need to change that. Originals are always worth more than their copies.

Comparisons can be constructive if applied properly, but this is where many people fail. When you compare yourself to close friends, this might motivate you, but most likely it will result in jealousy and insecurity. You need to keep your spirits high and contrasting yourself with others will only lead you to misery. You define yourself on your own terms, not those of others.

We need to learn to stop caring about how others perceive us. If who you are and how you look makes you happy, that is all the concern you need. We are all imperfect, growing people and the sooner this is realized the better off we will be.

“Comparing ourselves with someone else is an inaccurate and irrelevant measuring stick.”

The thing to remember about comparison is that there is no winning. If you are constantly judging yourself based on those around you, you will always find someone better off. All this does is degrade your self-esteem and worth. The only person to whom you should compare yourself is the person you were yesterday. Who you are today is a product of who you were yesterday.

We need to strive to develop a loving relationship within ourselves. We need to promote positivity and acceptance. We need to cultivate this at all costs. You are an amazing person and you need to treat yourself as such. Think about the wonderful qualities you possess that others do not.

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken”- Oscar Wilde

We all came into this world with a blueprint and each person’s greatly differs. You need to do the things you love to the best of your abilities. Once you realize this, you are on the path to greatness. Do not try to mold yourself according to society’s standard of success; mold yourself according to your own. It is sometimes difficult to look at people without comparing them to ourselves, but once you shift your paradigm of thinking, it will become much easier.