Controlled Chaos: Why Embracing Fate Can Lead To A Happier You

by Katie Mellinger

Whether you believe the universe was created by the Big Bang, Yahweh’s merciful hand or a little bit of both, everyone can agree that creation bridged the paradoxical states of control and chaos.

As everything was created by controlled chaos, it continues to function as such.

Think about all the people with whom you’ve crossed paths: that random guy you always see around campus but have never struck up the nerve to talk to, the best friend you met on the first day of school or the girl who sits two seats down from you in English class.

Why have you encountered some people and not others, and why do certain things happen in seemingly random ways?

Well, that’s where controlled chaos comes into play. By definition, chaos is described as a disorder, and control means stability.

With that in mind, controlled chaos means learning to find some sense of order and stability within the disorder present in everyday life.

In essence, controlled chaos is all about learning to embrace fate in order to lead a happier and less stressful life.

Here’s how you can do it:

Understand you cannot know everything.

Although we may sometimes feel our brains may burst with all of the information we may or may not have crammed into our minds the night before an exam, it turns out there is a whole lot left to learn (not just about school, but about life in general).

The sooner we understand this key fact, the sooner we can broaden our own understanding of ourselves and of the world around us.

The belief that there is nothing left to learn is both ignorant and prideful. As cheesy as it sounds, life is a constant lesson. Chaos keeps it interesting while control keeps it stable.

Accept you cannot control everything.

Most of you have probably heard of the saying, “The best-laid plans of mice and men do often go awry.”

Well, this is totally true, and it’s about time we accept that no matter how hard we prepare for life, it will still hit us right in the face when we least expect it.

We can schedule out our lives with perfect precision, but not everything will always work out just as we wish.

We could fuss about unfinished tasks or unintended outcomes, but that’s all wasted energy and useless negativity.

We might as well see where life leads rather than complain and stress over keeping the perfect plan.

Realize you must face problems and hardships with a positive attitude.

If things don’t go as planned, don’t automatically jump to conclusions. The world is not out to get you and obstacles do not discriminate.

Though commonly viewed as impediments to growth, obstacles can actually serve as catalysts to personal change and development, but only if you are willing to face them with a positive attitude.

Everyone suffers sooner or later. This is what connects us as humans. No matter race, sex, social status or religion, every single person faces some sort of struggle.

Some obstacles are larger than others, but each one has an effect. The real difference is not in the gravity of the situations; it is in the way you choose to react to them.

Although fate may deal you a difficult blow, it’s up to you to choose how you allow it to impact you.

Follow your instincts.

When dealing with the chaos of everyday life, trust your instincts. On many occasions, you may actually know more than you think you do.

Instincts are innately present within you and can come from memory of past experience.

By going with your gut, you are essentially doing what comes naturally to you in any given situation.

Needless to say, most times, you’ll probably be happier trusting your intuition because you eliminate all the stress and pressure that arises from forced behavior.

Never give up on your wildest dreams, despite the challenges you might face.

Be an idealist. With the necessary effort, you can do anything you put your mind to.

Although you may face limitations, never give up on your goals or, more importantly, yourself.

Don’t be afraid to surrender some control and embrace your fate, as well as the marvelous chaos that comes with it.

You never know if maybe, just maybe, the stars will align, and you’ll reach goals you never even imagined.