Embrace Change And Reset Your Mind

by Natasha E Feghali

How do positive people react when they are faced with negative energy? What tactics can be used to clean the slate when someone has been releasing their constant fears, worries and angry words on those who are not deserving of the other person's constant pain. At times, people are inclined to bear and even be the subject of another person's painful words and hurting soul.

It can be said that positive people attract positive situations; however, sometimes positive people attract bucket fillers who want to absorb their energy while leaving a trail of negativity. This can become very harmful to our precious thoughts as well as our positive mental clarity. Listening to negative words spoken around us and even to us can cloud our judgements and may even force our thoughts in that same direction. Being around negative people is inevitable; however, what we choose to accept and what we choose to DELETE is our choice.

“You cannot expect to live a positive life if you hang with negative people.”  ― Joel Osteen

Not everyone may support our decisions as their life story will be different than the one we are dreaming. Staying positive can become a challenge, though it is the most important principle in life when we are trying to create a harmonious and whole existence. DELETE and RESET are very healthy ways of dealing with negative people who may not support the calling and path you choose to follow.

By DELETING negative words from our mind and especially the negative words that others may speak to us and RESETTING our thoughts, we are more likely to avoid poor choices, remove burdens and strife and thrust ourselves into the destiny that is waiting for each and every one of us. By DELETING negative words and negative self talk, we are able to honor the positive energy that will lead us to the healthy, happy and whole existence that is waiting for us.

In an effort to concentrate on the positive and DELETE the negative words or thoughts that you may be having, try the following exercises to stimulate the power of positivity in your life.

1. Keep track of your thoughts

By keeping a visual chart of how many negative thoughts you have or when someone speaks negative words to you, you are able to visually realize how you can diminish that number. Some people find that by having a visual representation of what their mind is thinking can be beneficial in the long run to changing our mindset.

Some ideas may also include keeping a tally chart on a white board, a journal, keeping note in your phone and even sending yourself a text message every time you have a negative thought. By keeping track of your thoughts, you are able to recognize how and why we are thinking or receiving negative information.

2. DELETE what is not positive

Although we may not always agree with other people, we can allow others to express themselves without agreeing with them. Transparency is the best form or honesty in any relationship; however, if the friend, colleague or family member does not agree with us and begins to condemn our thinking we are to immediately DELETE their words. We do not need to verbalize this act however in our mind we could began to immediately dismiss the words we are hearing and replace them with our own positive self-aligning thoughts.

3. Empathize means do not INTERNALIZE

By empathizing with others, we are able to hear their troubles and provide a friendly atmosphere for them to share; however, internalizing their beliefs is not a recipe for positive mental clarity. Empathizing with others is a natural instinct and shows kindness through their troublesome journey by allowing them to explain their worries.

The problem becomes evident when the receptor of information begins to internalize those fears and worries as their own. In order to effectively listen without internalizing, speaking positive words of love, trust and kindness as advice will allow the speaker to keep their troubles as their own and give you the mental clarity that is needed to stay in your positive mindset.

4. Direct your thoughts to believe

This technique is used by psychotherapists and can help you to control your thoughts when you start to feel down or anxious. Create a happy thought, a positive image or give yourself positive feedback to keep bad feelings in check. You can create a successful reality. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt and believe that you will succeed at fulfilling your goals by directing your thoughts.

5. Analyze what went wrong and give yourself credit

Thinking positively doesn't mean denying that there is anything wrong. Often when we feel frustrated or upset, we only concentrate on the bad things or the mistakes we've made instead of giving ourselves credit for what we do right. Instead, give yourself some time to think about the things that led up to your current situation, so you can avoid future mistakes and look toward a more positive tomorrow. Allow yourself to feel confident about the things you have accomplished, even if you've messed up in other areas.

6. Forgive yourself and learn from your past

Constantly beating yourself up about things that have gone wrong won't change them. The past is behind you and no matter how badly things went there is nothing you can do to change them. Tell yourself that you're forgiven for your mistakes and allow yourself to move on. Whenever you feel negative thoughts about the past come up, replace them with positive thoughts about the future.

7. Be glad your life isn't boring and look at the big picture

If nothing good or bad ever happened to you, likely you'd start to get pretty bored with your life. Is that parking ticket you got a bummer? Of course... Take everything that is coming to you as a challenge and try and ask yourself if you will still feel bad about it later this week? This month? Learn to let go of the things that don't really matter and look at the big picture to keep interested in your life.

8. Do something nice and indulge yourself as well

Want to feel better? Try doing something nice for someone you care about or indulge yourself in something you love. You'll get to feel good for being nice and one way to remind yourself of the positive things that life has to offer is to indulge yourself. By doing something nice, you just might make someone else's day and by indulging yourself, you will forget about all the negative things and positively embrace yourself as you are!

Natasha E. Feghali | Elite.