If Your High School BFF Can't Answer These 10 Questions, You Might Be In Trouble
College is all about finding who you are and what you want to do. You'll meet a lot of new people and make new friends, but this doesn't mean your old friends won't still be a major part of your life. There will be a lot of ups and downs, but a true BFF will be there for you through all of it.
In high school, people tend to fit into roles, which makes it easier to know who you are (at least on campus). When you leave for college, however, you may be wiping the slate clean. Your BFF is doing the same, and there's always a chance you two will grow in different directions.
Even if you both become different people, you may still remain besties like nothing has changed. Some relationships can survive even the biggest transitions in life, but it's not the end of the world if yours doesn't. If your high school BFF can't answer these 10 questions, however, you'll probably grow apart in college.
1. "What kind of person is she?"
You should be able to describe your BFF to anyone, even in the most general terms, and she should be able to do the same. All she has to do is list off some solid adjectives; is she funny, quiet, and smart? She can ask you how you would describe yourself to see just how accurate her answers are.
2. "What kind of people does she like?"
Who do you like to spend most of your time with? Your bestie will get a pretty good idea of the answer if she looks around at your friends and those you make the most plans with. Hopefully, she fits the description to a T.
3. "Who does she look up to?"
This will tell her a lot about who you aspire to be as a person. The people you look up to, whether they're family members or celebrities, have the qualities you admire most in people. Maybe she even has someone in common.
4. "What makes her laugh?"
A huge part of friendship is laughing together. You'll be there for each other in the bad times, and you'll cheer each other up with a good laugh when needed. If you know how to make your bestie laugh, and she knows how to do the same, there's sure to be a much lighter mood whenever you two are together.
5. "What is she studying to do/be?"
This basic info is super important to know about any BFF. If you're in school, too, she'll have an easy answer to this question. If you don't know exactly what you want to do just yet, that's totally OK, too. She'll stick with you while you explore who you want to be.
6. "What cheers her up?"
When you're totally down in the dumps, your main girl knows exactly how to get you smiling again. Whether you like memes, puns, or cute puppy pictures, she never fails to have something up her sleeve for when you need it most. That's basically a bestie's most important job.
7. "If she could travel anywhere in the world right now, where would she go?"
This is definitely a tough thing to know, as the answer can change every day. In some cases, though, you may have a specific place you've been dreaming of adventuring to since childhood. If this is the case, she should probably get some more info about this spot. Odds are, you've been planning on going there together.
8. "What is she passionate about?"
These aren't just basic interests. She knows what you would do if you could do whatever you wanted to in life. A BFF should also know the most meaningful way you spend your time.
9. "What is her biggest regret?"
If something has been eating away at you, she should probably know about it. It's not easy to live with regrets, and the support of a friend can make a world of difference. Bonding over the tough times will bring you closer together.
10. "If her house caught on fire, what would she rescue?"
If she has absolutely no idea, this is a great question to ask a BFF. Like seriously, ASAP. It's not always an easy question to answer, but your response will show her a lot about what's most important to you.