Why Our Happiness Is Derived From Desire, Not Achievement
Sometimes, I think the ultimate happiness is to fantasize about something without owning it.
When you own something, it will never have the same value as before you owned it. The contentment is volatile.
No matter whether it's a special toy, a game from your childhood or something you have never achieved in life, being incapable of reaching that object can be really frustrating.
But that's actually the pinnacle of pleasure from having that object.
Just after you attain it, your desire will suddenly fade.
That's why certain things should remain unreachable in your lifetime.
You can always dream of having that and hope for the glorious morning that may bring you the object you cherish.
But if you don't achieve it the next morning, you will again go to bed, experiencing the same merry-go-round of eternal waiting.
This, however, is not a bad thing.
I would argue that if you don't have something that can fascinate you into the world of daydreaming, you will never be stimulated or motivated in your present life.
Despite being in the state of melancholy and gloominess for not owning something, you have aspiration to possess it somewhere in your mind.
Have you ever noticed the difference between when a kid is yearning for something and being turned down by his parents, and when he is finally gratified?
After a few days, he'll become disinterested with playing with that item.
The reason is, he was too obsessed with the object he desired before he got it, and after getting it, he took it for granted.
His tender mind doesn't have any idea how difficult it was for his parents to spend a handsome amount of money to buy it.
That's why after a few days, he starts to dismantle it just for the sake of experimentation or because of a demonstration of childish inquisitiveness.
However, if his parents never bought it for him, maybe he would have given it respect after realizing its value later in life.
Many successful people have said their parents didn't buy them whatever they wanted, just for the sake of letting them experience that feeling of wanting something.
This small example of a child is only an analogy to emphasize my perspective.
I believe it's good not to posses certain things.
This will help you work toward your goal, and it will also keep you active while trying to achieve your dreams.
Sometimes, I wonder what the life of someone who has everything he or she wants is like.
Is it actually possible to get everything you desire? If so, then what's next in this person's life?
If we don't have the concept of "hope to see a better tomorrow," how can we keep the hope alive?
From a different perspective, if fantasizing about something gives you more happiness than actually owning the object you desire, do you live in that fantasy all the time?
What about the moment you are currently in?
Are you able to cherish the present moment and not live for the moment you want to experience sometime in the future?
There is a journey in working toward achieving a goal you have set for yourself. After the goal is achieved, you will enjoy and cherish it for a while.
But then, this feeling of accomplishment will be replaced by the feeling of emptiness.
The journey toward the goal is more enjoyable than the goal itself. This is easy to see as a philosophy, but it is just as easy to practice in life.
You need to instill this habit of enjoying the present journey.
After all, your present defines you.
The past is just a history, and the future is uncertain.
So, let's use fantasy to motivate ourselves, and then we can live our present lives to the fullest.