There’s never a surefire way to create your dream life.
It’s a continuous journey, and it takes hard work to maintain it. No one’s life is ever as perfect and glamorous as they make it out to be on social media.
It’s time we stop using others as a measure of our success and happiness, and start carving our own niche to define what joy and abundance mean to us.
Once upon a time, I was a dreamer. I wished desperately for my dreams to come true. I knew it wasn’t going to happen by simply blinking myself away to my desired life as in the famous sitcom, “I Dream of Jeannie.”
So, I started to work behind the scenes and put things in place.
Here are a few tips that worked for me:
Do your research.
Just as some people like television, I am addicted to the Internet. I read articles and blogs and read about people writing articles and blogs.
I spoke to a few people, and you better believe, with some persistence and commitment, I soon became a writer of articles, blogs and even books.
I started my blog in 2008, and although I don’t get nearly as many hits as the average blogger, it is my catharsis and outlet for expression. Readers from far and wide have found me at my little home on the Internet.
It’s such a rewarding feeling to hear, first of all, that people are actually reading my blog, and secondly, they are able to relate and be inspired by my writing.
I trust the ones who reached out were the ones I needed to connect with at that point in time, and I know I'll become like the truly great bloggers (and authors), in time.
Keep it simple.
Writing, like entrepreneurship, is not for the faint hearted. It takes a thick skin, numbness for rejection, a determined spirit and will to succeed.
If it comes naturally, good for you, if it doesn’t, maybe you’re in the wrong field. When I write or create something, it’s not forced.
As one of my marketing colleagues commented when he first read my thoughts, “I love your writing style Lyn … simple and real … no forced extravagance in your structure and wording.”
I always remember this, and use it to take me to the next level and exceed the expectations I had for myself.
Likewise, when doing proposals and conducting business, I don’t promise anything I can’t deliver. I keep it real. I learned from a wise person once that in doing so, no one can ever come back and say you did not deliver on your promises.
The secret is to do such a great job the first time, you will always get repeat business.
Upgrade your skills.
It’s never too late to learn, and sometimes, it doesn’t cost a dime. You don’t have to pursue an extravagant degree to learn something valuable. But if you can, I say more power to you.
Improving is all about how you transform those learning experiences into something meaningful to impact yourself and those around you.
You can also get a mentor, do your own research, take part in workshops and short course programs. Surround yourself with subject matter experts, and really listen to what they have to say.
Each new year, set a goal of all the things you want to learn and do within that space of time. After a few years, you will be amazed at how much you’ve learned, how it has changed your life and helped to develop your craft.
Then, you can also give back to others what you have learned along your journey. You will find true fulfillment and joy as you come full circle. This is how I try to measure success.
Set no limits.
The truly liberated mind sets no limits; they are forever pushing the envelope. They don’t let what others think define them, or obstruct them from how far they can go in life.
In fact, for these people, negative criticism acts as an impetus to go even further until they are exactly where they are meant to be in life.
It’s all about conditioning the mind, setting targets, visualizing the journey and seeing your desired outcome/destination. No holds barred, life is yours for the taking!