BFFAEAE: 10 Qualities That Make Someone Your Best Friend For Life

by Deirdre McAndrew

I once read a poem when I was a little girl about a forever friend, and it stuck with me. I always wondered at playdates, birthday parties and sleepovers, whether I was among the “forever friends.”

It took me until recently to realize what it is that makes someone a forever friend. Not only that, but also that I was surrounded by them.

Someone who makes you laugh until you can’t stop

It's the friend with whom you share giggles upon meeting, the friend with whom you frolicked around your elementary school playground, or the friend who helped you get through a terribly boring class in high school or college.

It's the friend you shouldn’t be allowed in public with because of the uncontrollable and immature laughter that happens when you're together.

It's the friend who reminds you to not take yourself so seriously and helps you realize it is okay to laugh at yourself. Without this friend, you simply would not have your happy and humored state of mind.

Someone who changes your life just by being part of it

A forever friend became present in your everyday life a long time ago or extremely recently. It's someone you worked with, learned with, played with, partied with, laughed with, cried with and so many other things.

It's the friend who suddenly became part of your whole world. It's the friend you talk to every day or every month, and nothing seems to change.

It's the friend who adds sunshine and zest to a dreaded Monday and fills you with butterflies upon sight.

Someone who makes you believe there is good in the world

This person surprises you with a bagel and coffee to cure a hangover. This person says, “I’m here for you,” and you believe it. This person gives you hope in the world.

Someone who convinces you there is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it

A forever friend is the person who motivates and inspires you. This person brags for you and breaks you out of your modest and humble shell.

This person pushes your limits so you can be your best. This person turns your failures into successes and pushes you to become who you really are and will always be.

When you're down and the world seems dark and empty, your forever friend lifts you up in spirit, and makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full

This friend is the light of your life. This person barges into your house after a heartbreak, bearing ice cream and sunshine, and then drags you out of bed the next day to seize the day.

This person is your friend who is there to wipe your tears, whether he or she is incredibly ridiculous or completely appropriate. This person is the light at the end of the tunnel called life.

Someone who gets you through the hard times, the sad times and the confused times

You won’t neglect this person when you are in bedroom-bound depression. This person is the only one who makes sense of times like these.

This is the only person you open up to during these times; therefore, this person puts an end to the hardness, sadness and confusion.

If you turn and walk away, your forever friend follows

A forever friend trails behind you when you flee from a situation. A forever friend follows you to make sure you are okay. A forever friend helps you face the music and deal with your problems.

If you lose your way, your forever friend guides you and cheers you on

A forever friend is your personal GPS. This friend offers insight, thoughts, ideas, opinions and suggestions -- all of which, you know is in your best interest.

Someone who holds your hand and tells you everything is going to be okay

This is the friend who says, “It’s going to be fine.” This is also the only person at whom you won’t lash out for saying so. It's the friend who connects with you, feels for you and understands you.

You take this friend's hand when it's offered, or even before it's offered.

Someone who makes you feel happy and complete because you need not worry

You feel complete. You don’t need millions of friends, a significant other, an expensive car or the finest of designer shoes. This forever friend fills the emptiness that exists from time to time.

This is a friend who gives you a feeling that cures a multitude of ills, fills your days, weeks, months, years and entire life. If all of this above is true, you should be happy because, “You have a forever friend, and forever has no end.”