Easier Said Than Done: How To Find Closure And Let Go Of The Past
Closure is “a feeling that an emotional or traumatic experience has been resolved,” or so Google says. But, believe me, it's easier said than done.
How can you feel that an “emotional” or “traumatic” experience has been resolved when every waking moment of the day, thoughts of the past play on your mind and every time you check in to Facebook, your news feed is full of your happy ex?
Or, every time you go to “that” bar, memories of you and your ex-"best friend for life" come flooding back? Unfortunately, there comes a time in life when we have to make the decision to either move on from stale relationships with friends, partners, jobs or even our families, or stick by them.
"Eliminate or minimize" is a mantra I wish I embraced earlier on in the game. If a situation isn’t doing me any good, what good does it do to hold on for dear life?
Say that final goodbye, give back the box of things, change the pictures in the frames on your side dresser, stop walking past that coffee shop every day at 5 pm because there might be a chance of you seeing that someone.
Eliminate. Let go of the problem that is making you angry, mad and anxious. Let go and be free again. Start fresh. Allow yourself to become a new you, discover new things and explore new adventures in life.
Sometimes, the option to remove negative people and situations from our lives might not be apparent, especially if these people and circumstances have stood by you for years.
Sometimes, it’s hard to notice the warning signs because you’ve become accustomed to the life you live, but if something isn’t making you a better, happier person, it might be time to close the door and find a new one to open.
Sometimes, our comfort zones stop us from growing and developing into the people we need to become. We go through life settling and being content with our routines, but occasionally, relationships turn sour and unhealthy for both parties involved.
Be grateful for the experiences you share and the memories you create, but be brave enough to let go and grow. It’s not healthy to play on the past, especially when you question your decisions, your choices and the path you choose to take.
The decision might not be a hard one to make, but finding closure might be difficult, too. What are you learning from your ex’s Instagram?
An influx of nostalgic memories? A flurry of rage? A bucket of tears and a raised heart rate? Just hit that unfollow button! Move on. Find closure.
Put a full stop on what used to be and carry on with YOUR life. How are you enhancing your life by living in the past?
Imagine the weight that will be lifted from your shoulders when you have the courage to admit to yourself that actually, it’s time to grow. Closing a chapter in your life might not be the easiest thing to do, but right now, it’s the best thing for you to promote your inner peace.
The sooner you find closure, the sooner you will be able to live your life again and the sooner you will be able to open your eyes to the wonders of the world.
Eventually, the big, strong person inside of you will find that moment when you finally stop thinking, and stop feeling negative thoughts and emotions.
Be one with yourself and your thoughts. Go through your day happily and feel content with life. Be happy that you have closed one chapter and a new one can finally begin.
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