Everything Is Temporary: Why It's Okay To Let Go Of Friendships

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Everything is temporary.

I have said out loud, thought and fought for this phrase so many times, it’s become ingrained in me. Actually, it's now ingrained on me, in the form of a tattoo on my foot.

Does this philosophy make life easier? Harder? All I know for sure is that it lessens the blow when things don’t go quite the way I expect them to.

Does it make things less heart-wrenching? Would it make death okay? Would it make a breakup easier to handle? Would it make the end of a friendship acceptable? That depends completely on what your definition of "okay" is. What it will do, is make things a bit more understandable.

The time you spend in your 20s is arguably the most influential in regards to your future self. Who you spend time with and what you spend time doing plays a massive role in you reaching your full potential.

“Respect yourself enough to walk away from anyone or anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy.”

I'm not sure entirely where that quote came from, but it's been making the rounds throughout the Internet.

I recently outgrew yet another friend, and I felt sad for a second, before realizing it's not actually that big of a deal. It's okay to outgrow friends.

We grow. We change; we have to. Change is the only constant in life. Sometimes we're lucky enough to keep the same friends we've had since we were 2 years old.

Sometimes we're lucky to grow up together, to weave in and out of shared ideologies and then end up not seeing eye to eye. That's okay, too.

What about the friends who stay exactly the same? Still making the same stupid jokes and the same stupid mistakes and are so deeply rooted into their current situation, they're unable to move to meet the light.

What about the ones who pull you down? The ones who don’t support you? The ones you’re so far from seeing eye-to-eye with, you can’t recall how you ever even used to?

We change. We grow; we have to. You must always be most concerned with your own growth. I'm mixing metaphors here, but, like a flower that grows into the sunlight, you must take what you need in order to thrive -- even if that means you have to leave behind your friend who couldn't move to meet the light.

If they aren’t helping you dream bigger, inspiring you to work harder and motivating you to be better, you don’t need them.

More and more every day I’ve stopped letting people “chill” in my life. Everyone’s presence serves a purpose. If someone is bringing only stress to my table, I'd rather eat alone.

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