Dreaming About Your Ex Again? 4 Ways To Decode The Meaning Behind It All

by Sonya Matejko

We all know what it feels like: You wake up from a dream, smiling. You stretch out, greeting the sun and hit snooze for the fourth time. You open your eyes, look around, and suddenly, it hits you: It was just a dream.

Well, looks like you’re still single. It looks like you were just having a dream about none other than your ex. You suddenly curse your alarm for waking you up and aim profanities at your own mind.

You thought you were doing okay, going consciously through life. But then, the ex invaded your subconscious. He or she swooped in and interrupted your beauty sleep with false dreams, or in some cases, nightmares.

You finally moved on and got used to sleeping alone, but your ex won’t let you enjoy it, as he or she still haunts your subconscious.

Somewhere between lathering and rinsing, you remind yourself that it wasn’t real. You start to tell yourself that what you thought of him or her wasn’t ever real. So, you pick up your head, you grab your coffee and pretend to smile, because the only real thing happening is what you're feeling right now.

You attempt to block it from your mind throughout the day. But maybe, just maybe, you should consider why you’re dreaming about your ex. Though there are a handful of possibilities, it’s up to you to figure out your heart:

A New Beau

According to Huffington Post, you may be dreaming about an ex when you’re headed toward a new relationship. Your mind may be trying to sort out the good and the bad from your previous relationship as you attempt to fall into a new one. This may be a sign that you’re not succumbing to the same mistakes or that your mind is comparing your newest upgrade.

An Unmade Bed

There may be unresolved issues with your ex. So, even though you make the bed in the morning, it may still be unmade in your heart. Don’t fret — also according to the above article, you may not need to actually deal with it in person. It may just require a look deeper within yourself for you to figure out what you have yet to let go.

You’ll be surprised about the ease that comes with forgiveness. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you still have feelings for your ex, but rather that “your feelings are probably best directed toward healing whatever happened to make you exes in the first place."

Missing A Part Of Yourself

Dreaming about your ex may actually mean that you’re missing a part of yourself. A Psychics Universe article stated that your former lover might represent an aspect of yourself. This may mean that you’re neglecting or giving away too much of yourself.

Focus on addressing your own needs. Take a good hard look in the mirror and test how you feel about the person looking back at you. Give yourself a break and get back to the person you want someone to love.

A Series Of Maybes

Maybe you do miss your ex; maybe you saw someone who reminded you of him or her or maybe, you ran into your ex in the grocery store aisle. Maybe, it means nothing at all. It's up to you to figure out whether you have unresolved issues, but don’t think that this isn’t normal.

In one survey by DreamsCloud, out of 1,172 men and women surveyed, 29 percent have dreamt about a past loves while only 25 percent dreamt about their current lovers. The Women’s Health article, which reported the survey, mentioned,

...if you really want to know why you're dreaming about an ex, you may have to look at what's going on in your relationships with your eyes open.

You can curse your alarm as much as you want, but ultimately, it really is just a dream. You can analyze the reason, you can work through it, or you can just let it be. Those dreams are as much a part of your past as your former lover and it may be best to just leave it there.

My advice? Focus on today and all of the days ahead of you. Make these days a dream come true to battle the ones that may mean less than you think.

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