Mixed Messages: 7 Reasons A Guy Won't Respond To Your Text

by Nick Bastion
Julien L. Balmer

"Why isn't he texting me back? I seriously don't understand it."

"What did I do wrong?"

"What the heck is happening to my life? Ugh. This is so frustrating."

Have you ever asked yourself any of these questions and driven yourself crazy, while being stuck in a frenzy of concern and waiting for a man to text you back?

Let me cut to the chase: I'm a guy.

I know what goes through our minds when it comes to what will make us text back and what will make us refuse to.

That's why I am writing this article. I want to help you understand the truth about why men don't text back and what mindset makes men less likely to text you back.

There is so much misinformation out there you need to forget as to why he is or isn't texting back.

Here are the reasons why he might not be texting back, even if he does like you:

1. He's busy.

He might genuinely be busy. There is nothing to overanalyze here.

He is simply going about his life and might be caught up in something.

2. He doesn't have anything to say.

Men don't feel a need to have an endless conversation back and forth the way women do. Men don't think this way.

If a man has nothing to say, he won't text.

3. Men focus on one thing at a time.

Women and men are different when it comes to texting.

Men tend to be more single-minded in how they go about their daily life.

If a man is watching football, for example, he is fully focused on the game. If he's at work, he's immersed in what he's doing.

Don't take it personally. This is just how men are.

4. You aren't saying anything interesting.

I know this sounds harsh, but it's not meant to be.

If you aren't saying something interesting, it doesn't mean he doesn't like you.

He simply isn't interested in the conversation, and therefore, he has no need to respond, especially right away.

As I mentioned earlier, men do not feel the need to keep up a texting conversation the way women do.

Trust me on this one.

5. He doesn't feel like texting.

Sometimes, a man just doesn't feel like texting.

He could be tired, trying to unwind or just not in the mood.

Again, don't take this personally. It means nothing bad about you.

He isn't doing this to torture you or to play mind games.

6. You're already in a relationship, and he doesn't feel the Need to.

Sometimes in the beginning of a relationship, a man will text a lot, since he is trying to "win" you.

So, you might get used to this romantic, butterfly-inducing banter, only to find it stops when your relationship progresses. This is normal.

But, men don't actually enjoy texting the way they once did in the beginning. He did it for you.

7. He doesn't like you.

Now, with all that said, there is a chance he simply doesn't like you.

I'm sorry to be so blunt, but it's true.

So, there definitely is a possibility he simply isn't interested in getting to know you on a deeper level, if he isn't texting you back.

Whether he does or doesn't like you, there is one mindset you must drop (and I mean fast), if you want to make guys in general more likely to respond to you.

Drop the needy mindset. I know this is easier said than done.

I completely understand how frustrating it is sitting by your phone, as your heart skips a beat every time you hear a sound go off.

I get how confusing it is when a guy gives you mixed signals, or the guy you are with doesn't take the time to make you feel appreciated.

The bottom line is, if you are needy, it will make any man a lot less likely to text back.

Neediness basically means you "need" him to respond to you in order to feel okay and secure in your life. If you sit and fixate over why he isn't texting you back, you end up giving off a needy vibe.

This shows up in your texts whether or not you try to play it cool.

Men sense neediness, and it's an instant turnoff. The solution is to drop this mindset.

How? Well, do not frantically text him a billion times.

Realize there is no point thinking about it endlessly. Do not sit waiting by the phone until he responds to you.

Instead, live your life and have fun.

Why would you want someone to text you back if he doesn't actually want to? Chances are, you wouldn't.

Realize you can occupy your time with fun things you enjoy, or vegetate and binge-watch random TV shows.

Either way, let yourself relax and breathe. His texting habits aren't worth driving yourself nuts over.