One of the first of many things we learn as kids is how to have manners. The little practices, like waiting your turn, sharing your toys and speaking politely, shape our grasp of basic etiquette.
In my family, saying "please" and "thank you" quickly became integral parts of our language to the point that not following "no" with "thank you" still feels unnatural.
All of us learn that there are basic habits of common courtesy, which don’t take much energy at all to employ. If someone speaks to you, you know that it’s rude to ignore him or her in return.
If you receive something, you know you should say thank you. It’s pretty simple; it’s likeable, it's commendable and we can’t deny that it has probably helped us to get what we want every now and again.
But, not everybody develops or carries those manners into adulthood. Some of us forget to have respect for others and be conscientious in how we communicate.
The more we interact with people, the more we can see that being well-mannered is either something that is valued or it isn’t.
If you’re not being polite, it’s likely that you’re being rude.
So, for those people who unapologetically elbow others when pushing their ways onto the bus, and those who ignore people when they speak to you, this one’s for you:
Being rude is childish and immature.
As you begin to find your feet in the adult world, it’s good to keep in mind that a little politeness can go a long way. Remember that you’re not better than anyone else and disregarding simple practices of minding your manners just makes you look immature.
Failing to communicate and instead, being ignorant is childish. If you avoid certain conversations by being rude, you need to grow up.
Get used to including acts of consideration for others and words of politeness throughout your day wherever possible to avoid coming across as a spoiled child.
Being rude is not attractive.
It's completely unattractive and off-putting to be rude, and I doubt I'm the only person who thinks so.
A lack of manners can come across as ungrateful and also gives off a vibe that the person dishing it out lacks kindness and a general positive energy. Rudeness leaves little room for genuine thoughtfulness, a lack of which will inevitably turn people off.
Being rude can be hurtful.
Quite often, rudeness can come across in a blunt, curt manner and the person on the receiving end can be left bewildered as to why he or she is being treated as such.
As a sensitive person, I greatly appreciate manners because I know that rudeness can be very upsetting. Rudeness can make people feel not cared for and unworthy of consideration.
Even if it’s as simple as experiencing a rude retail employee, the event holds the power to negatively impact a person's day.
I’m sure we’ve all felt the difference between an experience with someone who's polite versus someone who's rude. The disparity can be quite significant and experiencing the latter is never fun.
Being rude is unnecessary.
So damn unnecessary, in fact! It’s actually just purely lazy to be rude. In fact, there’s no reason not to make the effort to be polite. It’s easy to let people know if you can’t make it somewhere or that you're running late.
It’s so easy to hold a door open or offer up your seat. So if you’re not doing that, you have no good reason for it.
We all have things happening in our lives that may make us feel warranted to ignore the goings on in the rest of the world. But, projecting that sentiment will just worsen someone else’s day and improve nothing.
There’s never a necessity for rudeness, especially as it holds the potential to trigger a snowball effect of people having bad days.
In fact, you can aim to brighten up your day with manners by saying "thank you" with a smile or making the small effort to let someone go first or even just hold the door open.
Politeness is attractive, easy to practice and makes good impressions. So, can we please start trying to utilize it more?