If you're anything like me and most of the people I know, you're in the midst of your 20s. You're seeking independence and looking for ways to create your own unique traditions... like taking your vitamins and not asking your parents for rent each month.
However, when it comes to the holidays, I'm completely lost.
Adulthood is a scary obstacle to overcome. But the truth is, you're never really ready to overcome it.
So this year, I decided I would catapult myself out there and host my first Friendsgiving.
Why, you ask? Because Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays.
Why? Because I can eat for eight hours straight.
In preparation for my first adult event, I've been telling myself two things: "Don't suck at Friendsgiving" and "Why didn't you go to the store earlier?"
Between all of this preparation, I've come up with a list of five things you can do to host a good Friendsgiving:
1. Find friends and invite them over.
I mean, everyone "has" friends. But I don't mean just any friends.
Friendsgiving is about those really good friends. You know the ones I'm talking about: the friend you text at 2 am about a lump on your neck that you're convinced is cancer, or the friend who carried you home from a party when you were blackout drunk and only ate a head of lettuce because nothing at the party was gluten-free.
Also, beg these friends to bring some sides when you invite them, because goddamn it, you can't be responsible for all that food.
2. Figure out what to make.
This is a challenge for me because I don't make "dinner," I make whatever's in my fridge.
So, when I finally secured a handful of friends who agreed to partake in my first Friendsgiving, I thought long and hard about what to make. I came to only one conclusion: Turkey is gross.
Then, I thought about what I loved from my childhood Thanksgiving dinners. I called my mom for the recipes for all of my favorite dishes.
I'm still not exactly sure how to make them. But hey, at least I have my menu selected.
3. Delegate responsibilities.
I'm lucky enough to live with my boyfriend, who's still with me despite the fact that I'm insane in the kitchen.
And I'm not the good insane, either. I'm insane in the sense if you put the knife in the wrong place, I'll say my chakra is off and believe it.
So because I have control issues, I've found it's helpful that he let me do all the work while supporting me unconditionally.
4. DO NOT go to the supermarket the day before Thanksgiving.
OK, this may seem like a no-brainer. Plan ahead, people.
But if you're in any way similar to me, you know you probably went to the store twice this month and forgot it isn't open late on Sundays.
Don't go to the store the day before Thanksgiving unless you want to be bombarded with other people trying to find the same item you are, only to get angry when they realize you've taken the last of it.
And when you do go, make sure your phone is fully charged. At least that way, you can text your mom to find out everything you should be buying.
5. Make sure your friends bring booze and dessert.
I can't stress enough how important alcohol is. It has SO many benefits.
For one, it'll numb your friends' taste buds so they won't realize how terrible your cooking is. Everything tastes better when you're drunk.
It will also inevitably make everyone happier and friendlier. And of course, someone will undoubtedly do something stupid you can laugh about until next year's Friendsgiving.
Follow these simple steps, and you'll have a completely mediocre Friendsgiving.
But don't worry: baby steps. Next year, you'll host a satisfactory one.
But whatever you decide to do, make sure you're surrounded by the ones you love.