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25 Ways To Be A Better Man Even If You Can't Be A Perfect One

by Paul Hudson
Stocksy

As always, there are improvements to be made. The truth is that no matter how many things we alter in our lives, we will never be perfect men.

We will make mistakes, give in to our weaknesses and stumble backwards from time to time – we’re only human. But, with enough focus, we can make a steady improvement over time.

The key is to remind yourself what’s most important in your life and what you feel needs changing. Here are 25 things you may want to consider if you want to up your game as a man:

1. Work out right after you wake up, every morning.

You don’t need to head straight to the gym. Just roll out of bed, do 50 pushups, 50 sit-ups, 100 jumping jacks and as many pull-ups as you can muster. If you can’t handle that much, then do as much as you can and work your way up.

2. Dress to impress.

You don’t have to spend a fortune on clothing, but make sure you look good in what you wear. Looking good doesn’t cost as much as you think.

3. Keep yourself well groomed.

Either shave or trim – that goes for every area of your body. You don’t need to have the skin of a prepubescent girl, but being sexy means a hint of tameness.

4. Take it easy on the caffeine.

There are healthier ways to feel energized. Plus, your heart will thank you in 30 years or so.

5. Stay up-to-date with world affairs.

If you’re going to live and function in this world, then you better understand it as well as you can. Many of the decisions we make every day have a visible effect on the other side of the world.

6. Read.

Your mind is a tool, and like all tools, it needs to be sharpened. If you’re not a big fan of reading, then look into puzzles.

7. Watch less porn – have more sex.

Give your hand a rest and get some cardio instead. Other than being demeaning to women, porn is boring. Don’t put a Band-Aid on your needs – attend to them like a man.

8. Take time off to let your mind rest.

Go for walks. Meditate. Do Yoga. Do whatever it is that you have to do to allow your mind to focus on the present moment and nothing else. We live in a hectic world, and finding true peace of mind is hard to come by.

9. Stop treating women like objects.

They are human beings who deserve respect. If you can’t be respectful and appreciative, then go back to watching porn.

10. Plan for the future.

It’s one thing to always be thinking about the future, and it’s another to have a plan of action. Living in the moment is extremely important, but if you don’t have a plan for the future, then, in the future, your moments will be less than fulfilling.

11. Grow a pair and ask her out.

You’ve been eyeing her for weeks and have yet to muster the courage. What do you really have to lose? If she doesn’t want to see you, then she won’t. At least you’ll know to look elsewhere.

12. If you’re going to take her out, then actually take her out.

Women like to be treated like they’re special to you because they believe themselves to be special. Treat them as such and they’ll appreciate you for it.

13. Don’t skimp on the foreplay.

It’s a very important part of the ritual – especially for women. You're not going to impress anyone if you just rush into it.

14. Give more.

If you don’t like it, then you’re either doing it wrong or you’re with the wrong woman.

15. Stop having the same sex.

This isn’t to say that you should stop having sex with the same person, but you should stop having the same, boring sex in the same, boring place. Be adventurous. Find a bush.

16. Don’t spend money you don’t have.

Debt isn’t sexy – no matter who’s wearing it.

17. Stop filling your head with information you don’t need to know.

Pick a celebrity, any celebrity, and if you know more about his/her life than you do about the political situation in Syria, then take a moment to reevaluate your life.

18. Keep your environment clean and neat.

An organized apartment will allow for a better-organized mind. Clutter has a way of seeping into our minds and making us feel claustrophobic.

19. Quit the job you hate.

You have less time on this planet than you think. It’s better to be broke and happy than to be rich and miserable.

20. If it’s time, put a ring on it.

The only way to overcome fear of commitment is to commit. Once you commit, you’ll conclude that there’s nothing to have feared in the first place. If she means a lot to you, then you better lock it down before someone else does.

21. Don't be afraid to learn something new.

Progression can only happen if we are willing to step outside of our comfort zones and immerse ourselves in the unfamiliar. Learn another language or learn to cook. Learning new things will make you a more interesting and well-rounded man.

22. Start a business.

That great idea you have will stay just that, an idea, unless you put fear and uncertainty behind you and make it a reality. There's no greater regret in life than knowing you didn't try.

23. Save some money.

Earning money is great, but it's not beneficial unless you are saving. Make sure your bank account is something you can fall back on if needed. You never know where life will take you, and a little financial security goes a long way.

24. Travel more.

There's a big world out there, full of interesting people and beautiful sights. Seeing these destinations on TV or reading about them in books is one thing, but you will never get the full global experience unless you just pick up and go.

25. Be thankful.

Hard work certainly pays off, but it's crucial that you don't forget to be thankful for all the success that comes your way.

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