There's been an ongoing debate about whether or not guys and girls can actually be friends. Many protest that it's simply not possible.
Outsiders to a given bigender friendship consistently point out the latent sexual tension between the pair: "It's SO obvious that you both secretly want to f*ck each other," they say.
Then, of course, there are the constant signs of jealousy in supposed platonic relationship. Friends will say, "You only think she can do better because you secretly love her." Or, "She's not a bitch; you just don't want him to be with anyone other than you."
To all those haters out there, I say, get a life. Not only is this type of guy/girl relationship possible, it's necessary. Check out the following 10 reasons to have an opposite sex BFF:
1. Best wing(wo)man EVER
The opposite sex BFF not only encourages you to get some, but also takes pride in helping to facilitate the matter. In the name of her bestie, the wingwoman will approach the hottie in the corner, create a comfortable environment, and help you help yourself.
Think of this like a game of basketball, where the BFF is the perfect point guard, always looking for the assist.
2. Great hugs with no hidden agenda
Call me sensitive, but sometimes a great hug is just what the doctor ordered. There's just something so comforting about that kind of embrace; opposite sex BFFs get this. Without a second thought and without a single ulterior motive, she'll be ready and willing to hug it out.
3. Can call you out on emotional bullsh*t
In no way am I condoning all stereotypes, but sometimes guys are stupid and girls are crazy; there is NOTHING wrong with that.
It's only a problem if you don't have someone in your life to call you out on this. Oh wait, you do: your opposite sex best friend.
4. You'll never have to go stag to an uncomfortable event
Most people hate going to any sort of awful or uncomfortable event alone if it's avoidable. Well, now you have a reliable date on standby.
Both of you can feel free to drink, dance and have fun, without feeling obligated to put out at the end. Plus, your bestie doesn't give a f*ck if you get blackout hammered.
5. Platonic marriage pacts
Not that I know from experience, but I’ve been told that marriage is tough. Well, you know what else is tough? Finding the right person to marry. That’s why you have an opposite sex BFF.
If you’re both getting up there in age and neither of you has found that special someone, you can always tie the knot to each other. At least you already know you can stand to be with each other for extended periods of time. Isn’t that what marriage is about, anyway?
6. Honest fashion advice
No longer do you have to wonder if your outfit ACTUALLY looks good on you. The opposite sex BFF is going to give it to you straight.
Because your relationship is pretty much indestructible, the truth won't break your bond. You don’t want to look like a clown and she doesn't want to go out with someone who looks like a clown -- win, win.
7. Hot friend code
This is similar to the best wing(wo)man concept, but there’s a little twist: The hottie is already in your opposite sex BFF’s social circle. That, my friends, makes you GOLDEN.
This is the perfect fix-up situation. Nothing better than a little, "I scratch your back, you scratch mine" scenario. When hooking each other up with friends, the seed is already planted, the intro preordained and the chances of success rise exponentially.
This is close to a slam dunk as it gets. The ball’s in your court.
8. He or she always responds
Carole King and James Taylor (yes, I’m going a bit old school) said it best when they sang,
When you’re down and troubled and you need a helping hand and nothing, whoa, nothing is going right. Close your eyes and think of me and soon I will be there to bright up even your darkest nights...
Corny? Maybe. Honest? You know it. That opposite sex BFF doesn’t hold grudges and he or she can handle your worst. Just call out your BFF's name…
9. No longer have to be a mind reader
Stop pretending that you completely know what the opposite sex is thinking. Life is in no way like "What Women Want." Fortunately, you have a BFF who can shed some light on how women really looks at things.
No longer do you have to assume anything (because we know what that’ll make you look like). Have a question? Ask your opposite sex BFF.
You might not get the answers you want, but it’ll probably do less damage to you than that pint of Haagen Dazs you’re about to eat.
10. Ultimate gatekeeper
Let's face the facts: Girls can tell when other girls are disingenuous and guys know an assh*le when they see one. Same sex friends often have blinders on, while opposite sex BFFs go into a situation with clear eyes and razor-sharp focus.
That’s something no one can really afford to be without. Ladies, the male BFF in your life will make sure you stay out of the wrong guy’s bed. And guys, you can be sure your female BFF will keep you thinking correctly.
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