We've all been caught at the intersection of a major decision. How do you decide which road to take? If you've ever felt stuck in a seemingly dead-end situation, then you know exactly what I'm talking about.
Whether it be a relationship, a friendship, a job, what have you, it can be tough to decide when it may be the best time for you to move on. Still, there's nothing worse than regretting a decision you made haphazardly. It's always best to ride out the wave and consider all the pros and cons before making any major decision.
Whatever the situation, these questions should help you weed out what you're feeling and prevent you from making a rash decision:
1. Is it making you a better you?
Think about if this situation (or person) is contributing to your life. If it's not, then why participate? This is your one life to live. Why waste it on something that isn't making you a better person? Be selfish with your time and your energy.
2. Are you being productive?
Do you feel fulfilled and accomplished, or left yearning more? Is this situation preventing you from being productive in your life? Sometimes, when we're so wrapped up in something else, we forget about our own wants, needs and responsibilities. Don't compromise your life by trying to please others.
3. Is it costing you your well-being?
If you're losing sleep over it or spending your entire day worrying, it may be time to reevaluate your situation. Really think about if it's helping or hindering you. Please know that nothing is worth risking your health.
4. Are you leaving satisfied?
Take an inventory of your mood. Are you feeling tired, anxious or upset? Or are you happy, excited and full of energy? Think about how you feel when you leave. Are you reluctant or relieved?
5. Are you constantly daydreaming about being somewhere else?
Are you content where you are in your situation? Or are you always wishing you were somewhere else or doing something else?
6. Is it going to help you in the long run?
Imagine your future. How will this benefit you down the road? If you can think of a few reasons, it may be worth really considering whether you stay or go. Try starting a "pros and cons" list. If the cons start outweighing the pros, then it might be time to cut your losses.
7. Have you given it your all?
Sometimes, if we aren't really “feeling” something or someone, we won't give our utmost attention. If you don't try, though, you'll never know. Really put in some time and more attention. Perhaps you'll find something spectacular that you may not have seen before. If you think you haven't put forth your best effort, don't give up just yet.
8. Does it inspire you to say "f*ck yes"?
I highly recommend reading the article called "F*ck Yes or No," by Mark Manson. While this article pertains mostly to relationships, I think it can be applied to any life situation. It has helped me, too, in a lot of my decision making. In short, this article teaches you that if you aren't inspired to say "f*ck yes" to something or someone, then why is it worth pursuing? It's also a reminder that if someone isn't saying "f*ck yes" to you in return, or isn't as enthusiastic as you are about them, then leave it. Simple as that. Don't make these decisions hard on yourself.
Remember your worth, and really consider what you do and don't want in your life. Love yourself enough to let go of the things in life that are no longer serving you, and surround yourself with people and things that only build you up. You are worth an overflow of health and happiness in this one little life we live. Regret nothing and go out and live it to the best of your ability.