There is nothing more useless than allowing the emotion of “embarrassment” to consume your thoughts. Let’s be serious: everyone makes mistakes. I cannot begin to count the people I know who have woken up after a night of drinking only to think, “Whyyyyyyy?” Or friends who look back on past situations and think, “What the hell?” The stupidity that infiltrates many of our life situations just happens. We fall, we miscalculate, we misspell and we ugly cry.
We ALL have moments when we should feel embarrassed. But, truly, the emotion is such a waste of time. It stresses you out and makes you overthink everything. Just save yourself the heartache and move on. My older sister was the first person to tell me that I should remove the word from my vocabulary, so I took her advice and eschewed embarrassment.
Sure, I have endured many moments that should have been embarrassing, but I just don’t give a sh*t. Designating those moments to mean nothing makes them small and unmemorable and allows the great, proud moments to be large and important.
Just laugh and be happy that you are able to experience it all. Have fun, sing in public, laugh out loud, put yourself out there and embrace life fully.
Not sold yet? Check out the top five reasons you should remove embarrassment from your vocabulary.
1. Embarrassment can hinder you from going after your goals.
We are in our early years of embarking on the road to achieve our goals and dreams. This is a time for trial and error. If you let the “errors” control your emotions and embarrass you, you might steer yourself away from learning, growing and prospering.
2. No one is really thinking about you.
While we are all so consumed with ourselves and we allow our egos to get in the way of many things, if something embarrasses you, newsflash: you are probably the only person who really cares. Other people have so much going on with themselves and their own lives. No one sits around laughing about your flaws and mistakes, and if they are, then sorry, those people should be embarrassed. (This is my one exception to the rule.)
3. When you don’t care, you take away the power from others to care.
Whatever it is that you do, have done or will do, if you have the “oh, screw it,” attitude, no one can take the power away from you. When someone notices that something doesn’t affect you, they cannot use it against you. Being embarrassed implies that you care about other people’s judgments, when really, only you truly know why X, Y and Z occurred, and the only evaluation with which you should concern yourself is your evaluation of you.
4. It can actually be fun to laugh at yourself.
Honestly, some of the best laughs I have ever had came from laughing at myself. People who are incapable of this and take themselves too seriously are seriously boring.
5. Finally, someday you will be dead.
Okay, so what does death have to do with embarrassment? Consider this quote from Steve Jobs:
“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.”
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