When I mentioned moving in with my best friend, there were mixed reactions by third parties. The biggest threat was the prospect of ruining our friendship because living together can cause tension. That's understandable, especially if you live together for a long period of time. But when you know your remaining time together is limited (e.g., before university ends), and you want to make the most of said time, it's an exciting, reasonable idea.
Luckily for me, there aren't many things that my roommate/best friend and I fight about or disagree on. She likes her place clean (and when I say clean, I mean clean), she loves food (basically the basis of our friendship) and still thinks I'm funny, despite having to hear them over and over.
We've got similar habits and different personalities, which makes things work. We're opinionated and practiced in compromise, which makes decisions easy. Maybe we work because she's the oldest sibling and I'm the youngest. Who knows? That's just one of my many theories.
It sounds like we're the perfect match (aren't we?), but you never know the reality of living with someone until you actually move in, however close you are. We're still in the honeymoon phase, but it doesn't look like things will change.
People assume we're dating or married, since we bring each other lunch boxes and plan when we eat breakfast together. So basically, they're right.
Moving in together hasn't put a strain on our friendship. It's deepened it and brought us closer than ever.
Every friendship is unique, but the following points are a few of the many reasons sharing a place with your best friend is a prime time. So, with no further ado, here's why you should move in with your bestie at least once in your life.
1. Screaming-the-lyrics-at-the-top-of-your-lungs, interpretive dance parties.
You always have someone who is up for a pep session with you. Going all out, no boundaries, no judgment, 100 percent sober, stupid, Wednesday-night dance parties — just because.
2. You motivate each other.
If you get up early, she is motivated to start her day. If she studies, you know you should be doing the same. If she eats healthy, you do too (especially if you share an account). When you encourage each other, life works. You motivate each other to let loose and treat yourselves after a long day.
3. Food made with someone else makes it taste better.
There are four main explanations for this. First, who really sets the table when they live alone? Eating becomes even more of a joy because of presentation. Second, no one makes juicy hamburgers for one. Third, food tastes so much better when you can groan in unison with the person sitting across from you. Lastly, it's half the effort. Either she's the dishwasher, or you are — a variable dependent on who made dinner.
5. Sharing all moments together makes you realize you're never alone.
As the Swedes say, “Delad glädje är dubbel glädje och delad sorg är halv sorg.” It translates to, “A joy shared is a joy doubled. A shared grief is half the grief.” Having a bad day is less bad when your roommate welcomes you home with dinner ready, brownies baked, tea lights on, candles lit and your fave music playing (preferably 1D).
6. Mundane jobs become fun.
Pumping some tunes and working together almost entirely takes away the chore that is cleaning. Break into song every once in a while, and use the scrub as your mic. You've got it made.
7. You're always unconditionally excited to see each other again.
Whether it's just been a weekend away or several months, you send each other snaps constantly and remind one another of how excited you are for when you'll see each other again. The apartment is prepared for your arrival when you walk through the door. She hugs you hard and is genuinely excited to have you back. She's also probably baked something. That's love.
8. Your apartment looks boss.
You guys are friends for a reason. Mesh all of your trinkets and decor together, and you've got a little magic space of happiness.
9. Speaking of meshing, you've got double the closet.
10. You don't miss other things as much.
I understand how precious alone time can be. But when you're as far away from your family as you are from your job prospects, and you're trying (and somewhat failing) to be an adult, it's nice to have someone by your side who gets it.
11. Life is like a constant sleepover.
Only better because you get to sleep in your own cozy bed. This point, otherwise, needs no explanation.
12. It's a rare opportunity.
You might never have the opportunity to live with your best friend again. A job, a significant other, or simply life could pull you apart. Make it happen when you can.
Shout out to Simone Starnäs for being my bestie, roommate and inspirer of this article. No one's ever made living together look so easy.