Zendaya's Breakup Advice Is Spot On
Getting over a breakup? Don't worry, Zendaya has got your BACK.
In a recent post on her app entitled "How I Survived A Broken Heart," she shares with her fans some surefire advice for how to get over even the most brutal breakup.
Although she doesn't mention the name of her mysterious heartbreaker (SMH, COME ON, ZENDAYA, I'm dying to know here), she admits in the post:
Y'all know I'm not shy about telling you I went through a bad breakup last year. I'm hella over that but trust, it wasn't easy.
So, how'd she get "hella over" that?
It was a two-step process.
First, she didn't let the breakup put her life on pause.
Some people like to sit home and sulk with a tub of ice cream after a particularly bad breakup. Zendaya is not some people.
If anything, her breakup inspired her to have more fun, saying, “I started forcing myself to have a lot more fun." She continued, "I tried new things — going out and just doing more stuff.”
In an interview with Elite Daily regarding closure, Dr. Niloo Dardashti, a psychologist and relationship expert in New York City, explained that, of course, it's still important to embrace your feelings and vulnerability after a breakup.
That being said, she warns us against dwelling.
Letting your brain go into overdrive analyzing the past and what could have been is probably the worst thing you can do for your mental health.
So take Zendaya's advice, and get out there and LET LOOSE.
Second, she cut her ex out of her life completely.
Some people recommend being friends with their exes. But our girl Zendaya isn't about that.
She explains in her post,
I got rid of old text messages, pictures and their clothing I still had. You don't hang on to old Band-Aids. Throw that in the trash! You have to get rid of everything associated with them. It's best to get rid of their number. Or if you can't quite let go, at least change the title of their name in your phone.
I think she has a point.
If you're really serious about getting over it, it's time to cut them out cold turkey. No point in keeping them in your life as a "friend" because, well, friends don't usually go ripping your heart into a million pieces, do they?
If you get over it years from now and decide you can handle a friendship with them, you can welcome them back into your life then. Now is not the time for that.
Citations: How I Survived A Broken Heart (Zendaya App), Zendaya Just Dropped Some Major Wisdom On Getting Over A Breakup (Huffington Post), Stop Lying To Yourself: We All Need Closure At The End Of A Relationship (Elite Daily)