7 Of The Worst Ways To React To A Hurtful And Confusing Breakup
Millennials are constantly hooking up and breaking up. And breakups come in many forms these days.
One person involved could experience a breakup, while the other person just got bored and didn't see a point in further communicating.
We're all scared, and we don't always know how to rationally deal with someone entering and exiting our lives.
Losing someone you regularly communicated with hurts, and there are numerous ways girls choose to cope.
The following seven methods can certainly help you temporarily bypass all those negative feelings during a particularly bad breakup, but they're not exactly the most wise (or healthy).
1. Word vomit.
We've all been there: Our friend has gone through a breakup and just can't stop talking about her ex, to the point of madness.
She complains to the point of exhaustion, yet still can't get enough out. The conversations start to go on replay, and you wonder what the point of even giving advice is anymore. It can seem endless and extremely frustrating to endure.
Don't be that girl. Let that shit go.
Remember, you broke up for a reason. And, most importantly, you two are over.
2. Get drunk and get with a rando.
No judgements, you do you. However, using this as a placeholder for your disappointment and pain will inevitably leave you feeling more lonely and discouraged than before.
If this becomes a habitual way to block out the ex-guy, you will miss him more and prevent yourself from moving on.
3. Stalk him.
You convince yourself you're over him, but then you happen to see his face on your timeline — regardless of which social media outlet you happen to be glancing through.
You wonder who he's with, and you feel like you are actually still communicating with him. You're not.
This toxic behavior completely stalls you from ever starting to move on.
You wonder who he's with, and you feel like you are actually still communicating with him. You're not.
4. Label him a fuckboy, asshole, etc.
Although this may give you initial relief and temporary satisfaction, tearing someone else down with negative labels speaks more about your character than theirs.
Maybe they're an asshole, a fuckboy, a cheater or a manipulative prick. That's their own problem, if this is the case.
They will eventually tear themselves down. You don't need to drag yourself down with him.
5. Expose or exaggerate his flaws.
You start pinpointing all the details you didn't or suddenly don't like about him, whether it be his looks, his body or his personality.
You tear him down to temporarily push yourself up.
Know that you do not need to do this. It only extends your heartbreak and signals that you still care and are holding on to what was.
6. Try and be friends while hoping for a reconciliation.
Being friends with an ex is a great thing for some people, and I believe it can work. But, that depends on your terms of friendship.
Friends do not hook up. This will absolutely further damage you and leave you as confused as ever. Being friendly with your ex and staying in constant contact will not allow you to move on, but rather, only maintain false hope.
You believe things are going well, so you start to believe that things could eventually get back to where they were.
You're setting yourself up for disappointment and self-destruction. It ended, and, as hard as it is, you must accept it.
7. Move on.
OK, this is actually the only good, and healthy method. This will leave you feeling stronger and rational when reacting to a breakup.
Allow yourself to experience these negative feelings, don't transitorily brush them off.
Accepting heartbreak and disappointment, and being able to cope with it will not only help you grow as a person, but will also leave you more indestructible.
