Call me old fashioned, but I believe men should go after what they want. Maybe I'm nostalgic for a time that never was, but what ever happened to romantic gestures and bold moves? What ever happened to a guy going after a girl until she agreed to give him a chance?
I know that "The Notebook" is coming to your mind as you roll your eyes in disgust, imagining some lame Drake-type confessing his love for the neighborhood chick, but it's only corny if we make it corny. I think it's heroic to throw yourself out there, to demand to be reckoned with, even if that means getting turned down. It shows masculinity and bravery to fight for something you want.
Men stand by waiting for women to come to them. When they see something they want, rather than doing everything in their power to attain it, they wait by, hoping it will fall into their laps. Whatever happened to grand gestures? When did men stop caring about love and start caring so much about their egos?
Ego seems to be the root of it all. Men refuse to shed their pride, even in front of women. They refuse to let their friends see them make fools of themselves, even if it means being denied a real woman. But don't they understand they are just denying themselves that slim opportunity to find real happiness? They're letting their pride get in the way before they even have a chance to fall.
It's an epidemic of cowardliness and women are getting fed up. It seems that these days the only real way to get a date is to ask the man himself. In the name of feminism, I believe it's fine for women to ask men out, but sometimes that girly part of me can't help but wish to be courted. Maybe we were raised on too many Audrey Hepburn films, but what ever happened to the guy who can't live until he gets the girl?
Why is our generation denied the dinner dates and romantic surprises? Women may have high expectations, but men don't seem to have any at all. So speaking for women everywhere, here's a list of the possible reasons men have lost their balls:
They hate him because he's soft, but they all listen to his music (even if they deny it to their friends). But what is it about Drake that turns guys off so much? Suddenly, when a guy does something sweet for a girl, he's known as "the Drake type." It's like this man became an icon for everything men don't want to be. Don't guys realize that Drake still gets more tail than any of them? Women not only don't care that he talks about his feelings, they also get wet to it. Think about it.
They Think They Will Have Another Chance
They think that connections will keep happening. They think that meeting girls they like will be a reoccurring theme throughout their lives. They don't understand that finding someone worth liking is rare and doesn't happen every day.
They could be throwing away the one shot to be with their soulmate because they think they might run into her again or that there are plenty of other girls like her out there. But when they're thirty and still chasing 20-something bimbos at the bar, hoping they'll find her again, she'll be off with the one guy who had the balls to pursue her.
They Bruise Easily
Their egos are easily bruised. When women get a broken heart, they cry about it and try to move on. With men, the minute one girl breaks their hearts, they are tainted forever. They lose trust in all women and make sure never to put their hearts out there again. But that's not how you live life. You must appreciate the love you once had and hope that you can find it again.
Men these days seem to think they should have everything handed to them. They believe that because they are the "alphas," they shouldn't have to do any work. It's like when the lionesses are expected to hunt for the males. But when did men begin to think of themselves this way? When did they start needing to be coddled and taken care of?
You can't keep blaming social media for your problems, but in the game of love, it's definitely a factor. Men have become so desensitized to women because they are everywhere now. They think they don't need to work hard to get women when they can easily just Facebook message the next girl they see posting a selfie.
They were babied by their mothers for too long and now truly believe they are the best people in the world. No girl could ever be good enough for them and they have yet to find a woman who will ever love them like their mommy does. They expect to be praised, coddled and tucked in at night.
The Edible Complex
You are what you eat.
They Don't Know What They Want
They just want to have sex for the rest of their lives. That's it, marriage is outdated, marriage is stupid and real men never settle for one woman. But just because you don't want to marry her doesn't mean you can't date her. We understand that marriage is becoming an outdated institution, but shouldn't that just be more reason for grand gestures?
It's the common case of over indulgence. They can whack off whenever they want and don't need real women anymore to fulfill their whims and desires. But beyond that, it's the constant inundation of women in subservient positions. Men begin to see women only in this way, believing they are nothing more than sexual props.
Want a guy's view on this? Check out Why Chivalry Is Dead, From A Man's Perspective.
Top Photo Courtesy Of: Tumblr