The 7-Step Timeline For Women Who Want To Give The Perfect Blowjob

There isn’t a girl in the world who hasn’t fearfully thought about giving a blowjob.

On the flip side, there aren’t many dudes in the world who haven’t joyfully thought about receiving one.

Oral sex in a committed relationship is one thing: You already know what to expect from his manly bits.

But first encounters with a peen can be terrifying.

Porn makes blowjobs look so easy and instinctual, but reality teaches us they're not.

When it comes to blowjobs, experience is our best teacher and also (somehow) our worst enemy.

Most girls will have a range of great, good, bad and awful experiences with oral sex.

It definitely requires a strong degree of intimacy, trust and good hygiene from both you and your partner.

Here are seven thoughts guaranteed to occur to every girl during head:

1. The night is young.

The kissing is excellent now that you’ve figured out how to respond to each other.

Clothes are coming off.

Oh, there it is: the hand on the back of the head.

I know what you want, buddy.

He’s hot. You’re hot.

2. Let’s do this.

But as those jeans get unzipped, you’re definitely asking yourself if you’re about to get bombarded with the noxious scent of ball sweat.

Do us both a favor and scrub well, please.

If he smells bad, this is probably where your night ends abruptly.

If he’s showered and smells like a decent human being, the party is still going strong.

His jeans are off now, and your dress is long gone.

This is the moment when you start doing mental gymnastics, trying to find the best way to get into a comfortable, BJ-appropriate position and look sexy doing it.

3. It’ll never happen.

Limbs get tangled. Your hair falls in your face, so you can’t see anything.

By the time you’re both situated, you’ve either pulled your hair over your shoulder or have it all over the place.

You’re desperately trying to keep the strands out of your mouth.

4. You’re finally good to go, and things are pretty hot.

Sounds are being made. You’re into it now.

His hands are in your hair, so you’re obviously doing something right.

You’re focused on pleasing him, but in the back of your mind, you hope he doesn’t start pulling too hard on your hair.

Mess up my hair; that’s fine. Just don’t rip it out.

It’s really difficult to be in the moment when his death grip is two tugs away from giving you a bald spot.

He’s finally taken your gentle cues about the hair, and both of you are back in it.

When he starts to get a little quiet and a bit more passive, you absolutely worry that he finds your blowjob technique boring.

No one wants to be a one-move wonder when it comes to oral sex.

So, you step up your game: licking, kissing, rubbing the perineum and using your hands more.

5. You've got him now.

He’s all excited, and his hips are moving.

It’s good. It’s great.

But buddy, don’t thrust too hard. Choking is not fun for anyone involved.

You hope he doesn’t push your head down or relinquish control over his hips because the gag reflex exists.

6. He controls his response.

You feel like a badass because he’s super close now.

After a couple of minutes, you start to wonder what you need to do to push him over the brink.

It’s about 10 to 15 minutes into act one of sexy time, and he still hasn’t gone over the edge yet.

This is usually the time your jaw starts aching, and you wonder if his endurance is a good thing or a bad thing.

7. Once the big O finally hits him, you feel like a BAMF.

There are few things more glorious than driving a man to the brink and beyond.

You’re doing the mental equivalent of hitting the Quan because you just won the jackpot.

It’s a powerful thing to know you’ve made a guy have an intense physiological response with your own sexual expertise.

A lot of women get a rush from giving that kind of pleasure to their partner.

He may still be reeling from an excellent BJ, but you’ll be ready for more.

Don’t be surprised when the rest of your clothes come off, and you want him to go downtown.

Turnabout is fair play.

Blowjobs can be fun for everyone involved, as they should be.

Be mindful of her boundaries, and tell her what you like and dislike.

A lot of people find oral sex disappointing because they don’t have the courage to show their partners what gets them off.

If you’re grown up enough to have oral sex, you’re grown up enough to use your mouth and discuss your preferences with your partner.

Everyone likes different things, but a little respect and thoughtfulness can go a long way toward creating an incredible experience for both of you.

This article was written by Stephanie Tate for Unwritten.