Why I'm Not Bitter My Picture-Perfect Relationship Ended

by Max Karp

In just a matter of hours, I went from the happiest guy in a powerful relationship to a single guy among 40,000 random students.

Now, a few weeks later, I'm still trying to make sense of what happened. If there's anything I want to say to my ex, it’s a quick thank you.

We spent a long time together. There were many months when I had the luxury of calling you mine.

Each memory was so special, always better than the last.

I loved every second of us being together, and I wouldn't change one moment of our relationship.

I’m not that guy who's going to tell you how I regret everything we’ve been through.

You were an incredible girlfriend, and it would be foolish and immature to try to turn every positive moment we shared into something negative just because we broke up.

You were the sweetest woman I knew. You had the most beautiful smile, and you always managed to brighten my day.

You were the definition of special, and you were my definition of perfect. You were my everything and more.

Many people find it crazy I'm thanking you.

You're an ex for a reason, so why would I thank you? After all, you broke my heart.

But people forget the impact others have on their lives. Let’s take our relationship, for example.

We were together for nearly two years. We shared incredible memories, saw amazing things and went to countless special places.

For two years, you were the woman of my dreams.

So, what kind of guy would I be if, at the end of it all, I lived my life with resentment?

I believe everything happens for a reason. I believe all our life experiences affect and influence us in innumerable ways.

So, I thank you.

Heartbreak makes us focus on all of the bad, when we should be remembering the good.

It brings our attention to the pain, making us forget all of the joy.

Four weeks later, I feel renewed and thankful.

I may never be the same person, but who I have become is a reflection of my strength and the person I once was.

Heartbreak has brought me so low, I’ve lost sight of who I am.

I’ve felt more depleted and broken than I have in my entire life.

But, I stand here today better than I was before.

So what other person can I thank than the woman who broke my heart?

You’ve given me everything and more over time.

We may not be together, but I have grown because of you.

Thanks to you, I’ve discovered my strength and my needs, and most importantly, I've found myself.

In the time we’ve been apart, life has felt like the roller coaster from hell.

But at the end of every roller coaster, there is a safe space that allows you to reflect on where you’ve been and where you’re bound to go.

Thanks to you, I’m seeing the signs.

Slowly but surely, I’m finding my direction.

You’ve made me identify who I want to be and how I’m going to get there. You’ve shown me the things I need and don’t need in a relationship.

You’ve helped me to get to where I am today, and for that, I thank you.

While most guys find it hard to see the beauty in a failed relationship, I can’t help but look back and smile. Sure, sometimes I cry for hours on end. But when I can no longer cry, I reflect.

Despite the hurt I feel, I may never be able to thank you enough for helping me to become the person I am now.

I stand here today as a reflection of everything I’ve been through and every obstacle I’ve overcome. I stand here today, wishing you could be by my side, but feeling your presence.

I stand here today, better than I was before.

I may be broken, but I am healing.

For that, I thank you. I will always thank you.