Kelli Kim

21 People Reveal Why They Stopped Talking To Someone After Having Sex


You and this guy have been seeing each other for a while. Let's call him Tom. Tom is nice, Tom is funny and Tom really does treat you like gold.

The two of you have decided to take it slow because you think you really might actually like him. So you're holding off on having sex with him but that doesn't mean you aren't constantly non-stop texting every day and regularly making plans to hang out.

By date number five, you've decided you're ready. It's time to do the deed with this lucky dude. So you go ahead and make love into the wee hours of the night. Then you wake up next morning only to find... no texts from him.

All of a sudden, he's gone. Completely disappeared from your life. Right after you FINALLY decided to have sex with him, he decided to ghost you.

It happens all the time, I know. But it still never really made sense to me. Why would you cut ties with someone who is clearly down to have sex with you? Just seems inefficient to me.

I mean, I'm not even saying you have to date them. But why not keep them around as a booty call at the very least? Cutting them out entirely just seems odd.

So, to better understand why this happens, I asked people to tell me about times they did this. Read along as 21 people share with us the stories of times they stopped talking to someone after finally having sex with them.

Maybe we'll all understand why a little better.

1. He thought it was a mutual understanding.

— Rich*, 23

2. She wasn't into his foot fetish.

— Meghan, 23

3. His dirty talk wasn't doing it for her.

— Michelle*, 27

4. She thought ignoring him was nicer than the truth.

— Maggie*, 22

5. His dick was too small for her.

— Mariam*, 23

6. He couldn't keep up with his lie.

— Lorenzo, 27

7. She just got over him.

— Kelli, 22

8. He's done it three separate times.

— Andrew, 25

9. He had a false alarm.

— Allan*, 24

10. It was the worst sex of his life.

— Jim, 24

11. He wasn't aggressive enough for her.

— Monica*, 27

12. She peed.

— Emily, 23

13. The sex was angry.

— Alexa, 24

14. He just isn't great at relationship maintenance.

— Marc, 26

15. It's a rule of thumb for him.

— Treez, 24

16. He wasn't confident enough for her.

— Elizabeth, 31

17. He was too entrenched in her everyday life.

— Sammy, 22

18. If he's not going to make an effort, neither is she.

— Ash, 24

19. He was just a giant douche to her.

— Mackenzie, 23

20. He was all looks, no personality.

— Becca*, 24

21. His proportions didn't work.

— Georgia*, 26

So wondering why that guy never called after your big date yesterday? Take a gander at these and maybe find some answers for yourself!

*Names have been changed.