What It Means To Have A Sex Dream Filled With Mind-Blowing Orgasms

by Candice Jalili
Kylah Benes-Trapp

A while ago, I collaborated with famed dream expert, Lauri Loewenberg, to decode any and all of your freakiest sex dreams. And I've had a guilty conscience about it ever since.

I know there are far freakier sex dreams than the 22 general concepts that are mentioned on that list. We all have deeply personal, weirdly detailed dreams that we sometimes just can't seem to shake out of our heads. 

Like, WHY did you dream about that guy from the grocery store yesterday? WHY was he wearing a top hat and nothing else?! What does it mean? Do you have to tell your boyfriend? Are you actually into the weird grocery store guy?!

So, I've decided to start a column. You guys can submit your sex dreams to, and we will have Lauri interpret one dream a week.

This week, we have 31-year-old Jenna*. She had a super erotic dream straight out of an X-rated Jane Austen novel:

I was set up with this man as an arranged marriage by my parents. The setting reminded me of a cross between Jane Austen and Downton Abbey.
After this handsome gentleman (very clean-cut, like a politician) and I were married, we rode back to his manor house in his roadster to consummate the marriage. The driveway was lined in pink and red roses. We went into his luxurious bedroom and made passionate love; the energy of the orgasms was mind blowing. His former wife and two children approved of me marrying him. I even said I don't want children, but would get pregnant for him. Then, while we were laying in bed, I discovered the thick makeup mask covering his face. I started peeling it away to uncover an older pock-marked face and I loved him even more.

Here's Lauri's interpretation:

Your dream certainly reads like a Jane Austen novel! And the historic setting of your dream suggests this dream is connected to something from your personal history, meaning that something from your past is either affecting you now in some way or something current in your life feels awfully similar to something that happened in your past. Marriage in dreams (unless you are currently in the process of getting married) is often about a commitment you need to make or have recently made in real life. This could be a commitment to yourself, such as a career, behavior or health goal or a commitment to a project or charity for example.
Marriage in dreams is often about a commitment you need to make or have recently made in real life.
The fact that, in your dream, your parents arranged the marriage tells us this commitment is something your parents suggested or are encouraging. The love you feel for him and the mind-blowing orgasms mean that you are really digging this thing you've committed to and it is bringing you great satisfaction... to the point that you could see other opportunities coming from this, hence your agreement to have children with him.
The mind-blowing orgasms mean that you are really digging this thing you've committed to.
You know what I love about this dream? The way you peel away his makeup to reveal his pock-marked face and wind up loving him even more. I think that tells us everything we need to know! Have YOU done something to peel away a false front you were putting on? Do YOU have any emotional scars that you are beginning to acknowledge and love yourself for? I think the marriage in this dream is really about a commitment to yourself: A commitment to acknowledge that the past is the past, that your emotional scars are not flaws but valuable lessons, and that when you can fall in love with yourself the world is your beautiful, rose-tree lined, Victorian oyster!
Your emotional scars are not flaws but valuable lessons.

I hope this was helpful to Jenna and anyone else who might have had a similar dream.

It seems like a GREAT dream to be having, if you ask me.

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*Name has been changed.