If You're Faking Your Orgasms, Your Partner Might Dump You, Science Says

by Candice Jalili


Well, actually, if you read the handy-dandy infographics I have for you below, you'll see not everybody does. But MOST people have.

In a new study by, researchers surveyed 2,000 American and European men and women, looking at everything and anything having to do with faking an orgasm.

They covered everything from who's doing it the most to how often they're doing it to what happens after their partners find out they're doing it.

And, trust me, some of these findings are pretty dang interesting, like, um, the fact that PEOPLE ADMITTED TO GETTING DUMPED AFTER THEIR PARTNERS FOUND OUT THEY WERE FAKING IT. SMH.

Read along and educate yourselves, you know, so the same thing doesn't happen to you.

Who's faking it in the bedroom?

Dr. Ed

Yes, it seems a larger amount of women (68 percent) have faked an orgasm than men, BUT more than a quarter of men have faked it before, too!

We're all in this together, guys.

How often are we actually having orgasms?

Dr. Ed

OK, so the striking difference between the 44 percent of men and 9 percent of women who answered they always orgasm should be answer enough as to why so many women feel the need to fake it every now and then.

After a while, it just gets awkward when your partner is orgasming every time and you're just... not.

Who are we faking it with?

Men and women (31 percent) are BOTH faking it the same amount when it comes to their long-term relationships, and the percentages are even pretty similar after marriage (15 percent of men and 20 percent of women).

Not to mention the fact that long-term relationships saw the men and women fake it overall.

It makes sense, though, right? You usually fake it for someone you care about deeply as a means of massaging their egos.

What happens when your partner finds out you faked it?

Dr. Ed

It's nice to see that finding out their woman was faking it inspired so many women's partners (31 percent) to try harder in bed. BUT DID YOU READ HOW MANY PEOPLE BROKE UP AFTER FINDING OUT?

First of all, as the ones who fake it the most, we ladies should probably be a little more understanding of our male partners when they fake it, rather than BREAKING UP WITH THEM, considering 15 percent of men reported they broke up after revealing the truth.

And even then, 7 percent of women also reported their partners broke up with them after finding out.

Do people fake again after they get caught?

Dr. Ed

Hmm... I wonder if the 60 percent of women and 27 percent of men who faked again after admitting to doing it include the ones who got dumped for faking it.

Here's the thing about faking orgasms: The only reason any of us are even doing it is because we love our partners and we care about someone else's feelings.

We don't want to hurt their pride, and we don't want to make them feel bad about themselves, so we just fake it to massage their egos a little bit.

It's not an evil act of deceit; it's a sympathetic act of love.

THAT BEING SAID, everyone should shift their focus toward teaching our partners that, even if we don't necessarily orgasm every single time, it doesn't mean sex can't still be enjoyable.

This way, we can take the pressure off of ourselves for having to fake it in the first place, AND we can take the pressure off of our partners for feeling like they're not "satisfying" us enough.

Citations: Faking It: Exploring Why Men And Women Fake Orgasms (