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What To Do When You See The Guy Who Ghosted You

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Thankfully, I haven't ever run into a guy who has ghosted me in real life.

Although, plenty of guys who have ghosted me continue to follow me on social media and like all of my pictures, which is a whole other story in and of itself. (Seriously, what is that? It's an emotional attack.)

I can't even imagine what it would be like running into one of these ghosters in person. How are you supposed to react? Pretend they're a stranger? I feel like I would literally re-introduce myself to them and act like we had never met.

Unfortunately, in real life, we have memories and have not actually been eternal sunshine'd every time someone stops talking to us. Yes, you remember the people who "rejected" you, and yes, sometimes, you run into them again.

And when you do, it's important to have a plan.

So, here's how to act if you see that guy who ghosted you in real life. Note: Don't start crying and making a scene. That's not part of the plan!

1. Have Polite Conversation

Kylah Benes-Trapp

Whatever you do, don't start a fight. Being angry won't make that guy who ghosted you feel bad or finally ask for another date, but it will make you seem bitter.  And being bitter is not a good look.

Sometimes, it's best to just ignore the subject in general, and have polite, short, and non-dramatic conversation. Play catch up. Say hello, ask how they are, and then, be on your way.

You don't want to date a guy who ghosted you anyway, so it's best not to invest a lot of energy in a guy who isn't relationship material.

Don't let a ghost ruin your night. He's the one who should be scared of you.

2. Ask For Answers If You Need Them

If you're still truly confused about what happened in your relationship, and you really thought it was going somewhere before your guy dropped off the face of the planet, then it's OK to ask some questions.

Just make sure you come off as inquisitive instead of confrontational. Surprisingly, no one likes being verbally assaulted and bombarded with questions in public.

Instead, start off with a compliment, like "I really had a great time hanging out with you," and then, pose your question, "And I'd love some clarification on why you didn't want to go out again."

But remember, you might hear something you don't like or the guy who ghosted you might just tell you a lie to end the conversation. There's really no trusting where this conversation might go, but if it's something you feel like you need to do to move on, then go for it.

Because if a guy ghosts you, then it's time to move on.

3. If Worst Comes To Worst, Hide

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There is nothing wrong with hiding behind a couch, large plant, or underneath a table if you spot that guy who disappeared on you after three dates.

If he ghosted you, then there's no reason you can't ghost him IRL, right? Right.

So if you run into that guy who did you dirty, then find the dirtiest location nearest you and hide: a toilet stall, a dumpster, underneath a table, behind a used mop near the bar. Pretend you are a couch cushion and allow your friends, or complete strangers, to sit on you!

The dirtier the place, the less likely he is to look and spot you!

Listen, being ghosted isn't fun for anyone.

So if you see the guy who ghosted you in public, you have three options: Be polite and ignore the situation entirely, bring up the whole ghosting thing and ask why he did it, or just hide behind your friend and wait until it's safe to come out again as a last resort.

Because it turns out, ghosting isn't fun in real life, either.