Guys, we have all heard this statement. You meet a lady who's quick to let you know that she isn't looking for anything serious. Romantic rejection comes in many forms, and the side effects are never welcome. Your heart races, your palms sweat and even your sleep suffers.
There are a number of reasons that make women opt out of getting into a relationship with you. Note that many women are usually looking for relationships when they meet the perfect guy.
So, if a woman suggests she wants to keep things casual, here's what she might actually mean:
1. She's not interested in you in a romantic way.
Sometimes when a woman says she wants no romantic ties, what she simply means is that you are nothing close to the kind of man she visualizes as her ideal Prince Charming. There is just something about you that doesn't scream the man she wants to marry.
It could be a certain vibe you're giving off, or it could just be her own instincts. Even if she can't express it in words, there are certain attributes a woman looks for in a romantic relationship and you just don't seem like you have those qualities.
If she insists on hanging out with you after dropping the "I can't date you" bombshell, the most probable reason is she is friend zoning you. She just wants you to keep her company and make her have a good time and that's it.
There's no future. Maybe your approach and tactics came off stronger than a cup of espresso with a Red Bull chaser.
Women like to be courted, but all the texting, emailing, calling and jumping up and down yelling, "Meet me for drinks! Meet me for drinks!” are major turnoffs.
The other reason might be she wants you to suggest a casual thing. (Friends with benefits, perhaps?)
2. She likes sleeping around.
Oh yes. You heard that right. She's loose like a screw on an old door's hinge.
Either she enjoys hooking up with different guys or she has grown too tired of getting rejected by men. She knows a relationship will tie her down, and she doesn't want that because she enjoys her current lifestyle.
3. She wants you to be her side guy.
There are instances when a woman might like you, but she has a boyfriend who she doesn't want to lose. She thus believes you can make a good number two for her.
She wants you to be her handkerchief to wipe her tears with whenever her boyfriend offends her. She wants you to be the guy she can hang out and f*ck with when she's bored with her man.
4. She has had multiple heartbreaks.
Some women have gone through a string of heartbreaks and they are tired of all that madness. In their hearts, they have vowed to never give their hearts to any man.
But that doesn't mean they don't want to have fun. You could be perfect together; she just isn't interested in pursuing things right now because history hasn't been so kind to her.
5. She's confused.
At times a woman just means "wait." She's either confused about how she feels about you or she has some things she needs to sort out first. So if you have the time to wait, then wait. Give her a little space, then do your best to guide her.
But how do you get to know what exactly she means out of the five above? Play detective. Quiz her in a noble way, and try to have her spill out some of her little secrets.
This can be done when you are out having fun. Through the little details, you'll be able to determine what she actually means.