Relationship Red Flags And How To Spot Them
Whether you've just started a new relationship or have been dating for a while, it's not uncommon to overlook your partner's flaws.
You, honey, are wearing love goggles.
These love goggles blind you to the negativity he may be bringing to your life or how horrible of a person she is... because you're just so obsessed with how great your boyfriend or girlfriend seems.
You think everything he does is adorable: The smirk on his face when he stretches after taking a nap, the emoji he uses when commenting on your Instagram pic, or the way his lip moves when he's about to sneeze.
While we're supposed to embrace our partners' flaws throughout our relationships, more times than not, we completely dismiss red flags in the early stages because we're so focused on how great things are.
Don't believe me? Let's play out some scenarios, shall we?
1. When he goes on about his ex and how she left him heartbroken.
You think it's cute he's in touch with his sensitive side and feel thankful he's expressing himself.
Watch out. He probably isn't over her. You're either his rebound, filler until he's over her, or his pancake.
2. When he takes a long time to reply to your messages.
You think he's busy and a hard worker, or always occupied when you aren't together.
Real talk: Maybe he just doesn't like to talk to you that much.
3. When all of his conversations are about work.
You think it's good because he's driven and work-oriented.
He probably doesn't have any other interests, so that's the only thing he can talk about it.
4. When he spends every second of every day with you.
You get excited because he actually wants to spend a lot of time with you.
But if he's spending all his time with you, doesn't that indicate that you're all he has and that he's going to become extremely needy? He'll get disappointed when you can't hang out and will probably kick up a stink about it.
5. When he gets jealous of other men in your life.
Perhaps you think it's cute he's protective over you.
But it could mean he doesn't trust you, or he's intimidated by your guy friends.
6. When he posts a picture of the two of you together on social media early on.
You're thinking “finally a man who wants to show me off!”
Oh, he wants to show you off alright, to make sure his ex sees and will get jealous.
7. When he's always making fun of you.
You think it's all playful and lighthearted.
He's actually condescending and just plain rude. And eventually, you'll start to get hurt by his constant put-me-downs.
8. When he won't take “no” for an answer, ever.
You're thrilled a man is finally being persistent. It means he really likes you, right?
But then again, if he never takes “no” for an answer, does he respect your boundaries? Be careful.
I get it. You're probably thinking of excuses for why your partner does the things above and how it's fine. And maybe it is... but you could also be in denial. Only you know the answer.
All of these red flags can be signs that the relationship won't last long, or that there will be a fair amount of arguments coming your way.
Love goggles certainly are blinding but take this reality check and reevaluate your relationship.
This post originally appeared on Unwritten.