You love your girlfriend, and you want to treat her like the queen that she is. But does that mean treating your girlfriend's friends too when you're all out together?
Let me paint you a picture here.
You and the GF go out to dinner together (your treat, obviously, because you're a total gentleman), then she suggests that you go out for drinks with her one single friend.
The three of you are sitting at the bar having a grand old time... when the bill comes around.
You're paying for yourself because obviously you're an upstanding member of society. You're paying for your girlfriend because you usually pay for her drinks. But then what?
Do you just suck it up and pay for everyone or make her poor single friend, Becky, foot her third of the tab?
I guess you could theoretically pay for yourself and have everyone split the tab evenly. But then you risk Becky telling all your girlfriend's other friends that her boyfriend is cheap.
UGH, HOW DO YOU WIN?
To get to the bottom of this conundrum, I asked around and got some very honest answers for you:
Unless you're all taking turns, it's not your job:
Or, you can avoid the situation entirely:
Then again, it depends on the occasion:
And, it's OK to do it occasionally:
If you've already set a precedent, stick to it:
Or, you can be a total creep about it:
You shouldn't do it just because "it's expected":
And you can set a "hard no" rule:
(Side note: @ThePewterPeenor's girlfriend is one lucky lady.)
Obviously, there's no one hard and fast rule we can make for every couple. What works for you and your girlfriend's financial situation could be different from what works for a hedge-fund manager and his supermodel girlfriend's financial situation.
But if you're really in a jam next time you're out with her and her friends, I think the best advice would be to split it evenly. Or buy the round and tell the friend she can treat you guys next time.