This Is The One Word That Finally Made Me Face All My Relationship Problems
“When you stop chasing the wrong things, you give the right things a chance to catch you.”
I had a very honest and concerned friend of mine who told me something I really needed to hear. In fact, it was something I always knew about my relationships but chose to ignore, which is why it made it that much harder to hear.
However, I learned early on in life that if there are people who are willing to open your eyes to the truth, you should never deny that blessing. For that honesty is a gift guiding you to your highest good.
So, now you're probably wondering what it was he said.
Well, after a personal rampage of talking in circles and then finally wanting to leave the conversation out of sheer frustration, he said “Please don't do what you always do.”
I said, “What is that?”
He said, "Run.”
A sigh of deep regret and embarrassment swept through my body. I knew he was right.
I run. I run from what I feel is too much for me to handle. I run from people before they have the chance to run from me. These were the harsh truths I had to face in that very moment.
So, I had a choice. I could pretend I had no idea what he was talking about, or I could end the cycle right then and there and face it, face everything.
So, what did I do?
I took a deep breath. And for the first time in my life, I chose not to run. And what I learned from this experience has had a huge impact on my perceptions of who I am and what I'm capable of doing.
It's shown me there is nothing I can't face in this world. It's shown me the most courageous humans are the ones who finally make the decision to face their problems head-on.
Is it the easy option? No. In fact, it is probably the hardest and most scariest option there is.
But from this experience, there is one thing I've learned: It's worth it.
It's worth it because you learn you CAN overcome your fears.
Will we always do it gracefully? Most certainly not. No one does. But, the willingness to try is enough for the universe to begin pushing you in the right direction.
So, for those of you who feel you've hit an emotional wall or have even lost the motivation to get out of your bed this morning, trust in my words today.
I know you can't see where you will be five months from now today. I know you can't see tomorrow, today. I know you feel beaten and broken today, but there is someone out there who doesn't see you this way.
Right now, that person may very well be me.
For I know you have strength within you that you have not yet discovered. You have gifts within you that you still have yet to share with the world. There is nothing — I repeat, nothing — you cannot do if you just give yourself a chance to see this potential through.
It is time to stop running away from all of your problems. In essence, stop chasing the wrong things or a simpler way of taking the easy way out.
Even if you can't see how you'll ever overcome a problem, know that just the action of making a change brings with it the resources necessary to get your moving in the right direction.
Trust me, the right things WILL catch you. But the question is, do you have the courage to chase?
This article originally appeared on the author's personal blog.