7 Common Misconceptions About Introverts Dating Other Introverts

by Fernanda Calvo
Summit Entertainment

I'm an introvert, and until a few months ago, I thought, because I'm an introvert, my best match would be a rowdy, exuberant extrovert.

People harp on how you need balance in relationships and that opposites attract. But the truth is, there's no reason why a relationship between two people who enjoy keeping to themselves can't work out.

In fact, most people have an erroneous view of what an introvert truly is.

People think we're emo, loner beings, who hate crowds and spend all our time reading books and writing fan-fiction.

While some of us enjoy doing that, some of us also have tons of friends we absolutely love to hang out with. We belong to teams and clubs, and we're also leaders and bosses.

So, I decided to try what people told me not to do and went out with a few introverts. I discovered these seven myths I had been told were really just lies:

1. Introverts have dangerously awkward first dates.

Unsurprisingly, all first dates are awkward.

Unsurprisingly, all first dates are awkward.

Meeting someone new can make anyone feel uncomfortable, not just an introvert. So the thought that only introverts get a little shy around someone new is completely false.

Some of the introverts I've gone out with run entire departments and entertain clients all the time, and they've all been charming and great with conversation.

2. Touching is uncomfortable.

This is the biggest myth of them all. How comfortable someone is with physical touch has nothing to do with how they prefer to recharge.

In fact, one of the people I've been the most sexually attracted to in a while was an introvert. He wasn't shy about touch at all.

Some introverts do have a hard time connecting with people physically, but not all of them do. And introverts aren't necessarily asexual or uninterested in sex.

3. Conversation is limited between introverts.

Lies, I tell you. I spent six hours at a bar talking to another introvert. And boy, did we laugh.

Introverts are fully capable of talking and making jokes, and conversations with them certainly aren't limited.

At times, conversations with an introvert can even be much deeper than those with an extrovert.

4. Texting never happens.

Wrong. Introverts love to text. We actually open up more through writing.

5. They aren't willing to hang out in groups.

Introverts aren't necessarily lacking in friends. We like going to parties — small ones, preferably — and hanging in groups of no more than 15 people.

OK, so we may not be as willing to get up and give a speech at a party, but we definitely enjoy social events where there are (small) crowds.

6. Things get boring quickly.

Introverts can be just as interesting as extroverts. We are adventurous and bold, too. The only difference is we recharge during our quiet or alone time.

Introverts can be just as interesting as extroverts.

Introverts like to travel and experience new things, and two introverts doing that together is like heaven on earth. You hold on to each memory with a profundity that an extrovert might not easily access.

7. Two introverts can't know each other well.

It's true introverts are private people, but that doesn't mean two introverts wouldn't know each other very well.

Introverts tend to have deeper conversations and can be less judgmental because they've been wrongly judged most of their lives.

They're also pretty picky when it comes to sharing facts about their past or their lives in general, so two introverts would be perfect confidants for each other. We're good at keeping secrets and can be trusted not to use what we know about someone to destroy them.

Fellow introverts, let's do one another a huge favor and date each other.