Dejan Ristovski

12 Things Every Extrovert Who's Dated An Introvert Knows To Be True


From the introvert’s perspective, the extrovert is the one to light up the room, and through the extrovert’s lens, the introvert offers clarity and sanctuary from the spotlight.

(Disclaimer: Bear with me through the overdone references to deceased family members….) My grandpa used to say that "the quietest person in the room is the smartest." It makes sense. Introverts are grounded. They harbor all the knowledge of their environment and make rational decisions.

That doesn’t mean introverts don’t need a little extrovert push every now and then, which is what makes them such compatible, dynamic couples. Introverts need to be challenged and extroverts aren’t afraid to get in their face a little. It’s all in good fun and, above all, it works.

Dating an introvert is the best move an extrovert could do. While independent introverts don’t mind hanging back, extroverts enjoy being rockstars for the both of them.

Here’s what it’s like when extroverts date introverts:

1. Every time you are on the fence about going out, they're convincing you to stay in

We all know that’s what you really want to hear. Extroverts need a break every now and then, but are too familiar with their routine on the party circuit.

That’s where introverts come in. They want to slow things down and enjoy the time spent together, which is exactly what you are craving.

2. They force you to think before you speak

You’re too quick to talk and sometimes that can get you into trouble when you say things you don’t mean.

Your partner not only knows this about you, but also makes you feel comfortable enough to take your time. Introverts make extroverts better people; they’re the perfect complement.

3. Introverts always have really good advice

Introverts are observant and deep thinkers. They are able to take in all that is going on and process it on another level. This makes their advice so valuable. Introverts really take into consideration all your concerns.

4. You get to monopolize the conversation

Extroverts like to talk and share their opinions on matters, and introverts-in-love are only too happy to listen to every word you say. You don’t have to feel self-conscious that you’re revealing too much or blabbering.

Introvert partners want you to express yourself. With their heads in the love-clouds (where your current partner is perfect and enjoys cooking for you and doing the dishes after oral sex), introverts are enamored of your every thought.

5. They’re Times New Roman in the streets and Wingdings in the sheets

You gotta let it out some way. On the outside, introverts play it cool; when they are in your comfort -- just you guys -- they’re ready to let loose and open up to you.

Dating an introvert as an extrovert is special because you know all the different layers to your partner that most people don’t.

6. You’re always down to meet each other’s friends

Your partner doesn’t mind playing a supportive role and tagging along when you want to see your friends.

On the flip side, you enjoy meeting new people and starring in different scenes. You like introducing yourself to crowd. Introverted partners are grateful there’s somebody by their side to do the talking.

7. Their displays of affection feel more special

Introverts don’t say "I love you" a lot, so when they do, they really mean it.

They’re not the type to share their feelings too much or put their loving thoughts about you into words, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t thinking it. When they do compliment you, it comes with an added layer of sincerity.

8. They’re happy to let you shine

You don’t mind being the center of attention or working the room. And introverts like that you’ll take the lead in social situations.

You help introverts come out of theirs shells while they respect your independence and “need to do your thing.” It doesn’t matter if you’re at a bar or club, they’re down to be your wingmen.

9. They put things into perspective when you have an emotional breakdown

It’s hard being you! You’re high in-demand! When you just can’t handle the pressure anymore, you have your introverted partner to fall back on. Your partner has the sound mind to keep you from really losing it.

If you’re stressing out about work or having a nervous breakdown about your career, it’s your introverted partner who helps you sort through the negativity and reminds you of how capable you really are.

10. They see past your bullsh*t

Introverts see things clearly, plain and simple. They know when you’re faking it. They know when you’re not saying what’s really on your mind.

It warms your heart though, that someone knows you that well. More than wanting attention, you want to be understood deep down. Your introvert partner gets it.

11. Getting them to express themselves is like pulling teeth

Introverts don’t want to discuss their “feels” or have a formal conversation about their emotions. When you just want to make things right or figure out what the heck they want for delivery, you have to coax them into talking.

12. They’re keeping quiet while you’re trying to argue

You really like having your voice heard, OK? Sometimes you just want to argue for attention or get your point across.

They know how to playfully push your buttons by letting you get worked up over nothing, especially when you two know you’re doing this just for the make-up sex in the end. They’ll back down eventually, but they’re secretly having too much fun.