Men Reveal When They've Said 'It's Not You, It's Me' And Weren't Lying About It

by Candice Jalili

"It's not you, it's me," is probably the most textbook breakup line there is.

It's also probably the worst line anyone can give you because, well, it sounds like a pity lie.

You're DUMPING me so of freaking course it has something to do with me. To be honest, I've always thought it was a lie people told just to make their soon-to-be exes feel better.

But a new Reddit thread is making it look like I might have been wrong all this time. When asked if they've ever said, "It's not you, it's me," and meant it, a surprising amount of dudes admitted that they have.

Follow along for their frankly pretty heartbreaking stories here:

He really just isn't the great guy who charmed her in the first place.

He would hop into relationships before he was ready.

He hopes she finds someone who doesn't have his same hangups.

He meant it, but that didn't mean his exes believed him.

His scars from his past relationship still hadn't healed.

He didn't want his personal demons affecting both of them.

He needed to focus on himself.

He just wasn't feeling that spark.

It took him five years to realize he just wasn't happy.

He had to end things for both of them.

He's meant it twice.

He realized he wasn't giving her what she deserved.

He wanted to be a fuckboy for one more year.

He just didn't want to marry her.

So maybe it's time to cut that guy who told you it wasn't you some slack. Unless he's that guy who had to end it with her to be a fuckboy... that guy can just go.